About

The joy of being together.

I know myself well and love myself deeply. I am a healthy person, whole human being with mature love. Although I am now 73 years old, I have the body of a 50 year-old man and, most importantly, a young but wise heart. I have a deep emotional hunger for a strong connection with another man who is capable of  fulfilling my needs and who is capable of letting me fulfill his.

 I know what kind of guy I am looking for. I am looking for a special man who can feel joy with me, be emotionally available to me, and who is affectionate, gentle yet strong, kind, tender, compassionate, cuddling, sensitive, loving, and assertive. I prefer a man who is clear and well-grounded, but those qualities are not necessary. I also want a man  who can laugh, play, and have fun with me.

I accept you for all that you wonderfully  are. I genuinely want to know you as a human being. I want to have the adventure and excitement of getting to know you. I am not into recreational sex or the hurtful behaviors which can accompany it.

 I am seriously into advanced body building and keeping myself as healthy as possible, so that I will live a longest quality life possible. If you are in shape, that is another large plus. I like hairy muscular men.

Lastly, I am a professional ecologist and evolutionary biologist (B.A. cum laude Princeton University; Ph.D  University of Utah; Honorary Fellow/Faculty Staff,  University of Wisconsin – Madison).  Travel: Italy and Europe 1961, 1965, Borneo and New Guinea 1972, Madagascar, Namibia, and South Africa 2018. Interests: people, nature and wilderness, cooking, bodybuilding, fit lifestyle, sailing,  classical music, rare plant collecting, piano playing and composing music, and , of course men. Dr. Thomas          I am looking for a man who is in recovery who is finishing his issues.IN particular, I would like to correspond with you over these two quotes or any topic you wish. I want to be safe and intimate with a non-abusive guy and I want to heal with him and viceversa.” QUOTE 1. If you would find someone who can fully love you and know you, you have to know and love yourself. And self-love is the foundation of any relationship that works, even if that relationship is the preparation for finding a soul mate. (John Gray).

QUOTE 2. When we reveal ourselves to our partner and find that this brings healing rather than harm, we make an important discovery – that intimate relationship a sanctuary from the world of facades, a sacred space where we can be ourselves, as we are ….. This kind of unmasking – speaking our truth, sharing our inner struggles, and revealing our raw edges – is sacred activity, which allows two souls to meet and touch more deeply. (John Welwood).  

revision of April 20, 2025:
I seek a man with the following personality and body type to share my life with.
Personality: He is well connected with his feelings, emotions and desires.  He is safe for me to be with ie he has completed his verbal, physical, and emotional abuse issues. He is his authentic self and he has recovered from society’s confusion. He has strong interests in me and appreciation for me and all other people. He and I heal each others wounds with clarity. He is alive and fun to be with. He has the following true strengths: humble, humorous, grateful, kind, friendly, empathetic, compassionate, tenacious on life, intelligent, flexible, resourceful, resilient, gentle, caring, accommodating, loving,, accepting, understanding, patient, insightful, open-minded, honest and direct, loyal to self, emotionally strong, creative, adaptable, receptive to other people, well-connected, affectionate.

His body type:   hairy, muscular preferred;. Personality is far more important than body type.