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In all seriousness, IDK what happened to the old RJ, I certainly miss my old account and all the content I had worked so hard to acquire. Nevertheless, here we are. New beginning.

Considering the severe health crisis our world currently finds itself in (not to mention the mental health impacts we are feeling, as sadly, men’s hearts are failing them)—particularly among our Vets (THANK YOU for your service and sacrifice) and the LGBTQ population; might I begin with a few words of advice in hopes, if nothing else, something I say may aid someone who is suffering or in need of help:

Calum Scott – No Matter What (Official Video) – YouTube

Lauren Daigle – Rescue (Official Lyric Video) – YouTube


Josh Groban – You Are Loved (Don’t Give Up) [Official Music Video] – YouTube

All we really have in this life is Love, God, each other and family—in all it’s various forms. Love is love, plain and simple. You are loved, needed and wanted—just the way you are. Whether you believe it or not, there is a community of people out there who love you, need you and want to embrace you. They desire for you to be happy and to feel unconditional love. Your life is worth it! You are worth it! You possess a very unique and beautiful God-given light and this mad world needs that light. Just because some may not see it, doesn’t mean it’s not there. I see it—I feel it! So let your light shine.

If you don’t walk or talk or love like most people do, although some people talk and laugh and walk away from you—I won’t.  I’ll walk with you and I’ll talk with you, because that’s how I show my love for you. Jesus, He walked away from none. He gave His love to everyone. He blessed all who he could see, then turned and said, “Come Follow Me”.  And I will—I will!

Enough is enough! Others may tell you what they think is right or wrong and/or who is worthy of your love. But in the Bible (John 13:34-35), we are instructed to LOVE ALL PEOPLE. Ultimately, regardless of what others think or say, if you’ve found somebody who truly makes you feel happy and who tends to your heart in the way others have been lacking; then you have found something most people spend a lifetime longing to have. So do what you have to, because who are they to stand in your way? If nothing else, understand you are indeed a child of God and yes, He loves you no matter what. And if He cannot love and accept you just the way you are—the way He made you, then who else ever could?


Lauren Daigle – You Say (Official Music Video) – YouTube

Matt Rife on the Victims Mentality 🔥💯 #motivation #mattrife (youtube.com)

I truly feel terrible for anyone who wakes-up every day and makes the decision to live with a victim’s negative mentality of, “oh everything is awful, and everyone is out to hurt me and/or my feelings”. No matter the hand you have been dealt in life, no matter the mistake or regret or how unfair or hard things get for you. If you can simply learn to find the light in any dark situation you are experiencing and learn to laugh at the things that could make you miserable or cry and not want to go on or to give up; that is how you win at life and that is how you become a significantly happier and fun and more attractive person to be around. Others have been where you are, and they have endured and have found a brighter tomorrow, and you can too. In my experience, the best way to cope with loneliness, pain, trauma, and/or regret is to first recognize there is an issue and then humble yourself toward a willingness to come out of your dark place and get help. Maybe you’ve been violated, traumatized, rejected treated unfairly or felt you don’t belong. Perhaps you have imperfections, doubts or regrets. Maybe you’ve been selfish and/or you’ve messed up—welcome to the club! These things do not define you.

FIGHT FOR YOURSELF (for your life)

Andy Grammer – “Don’t Give Up On Me” [Official Video from the Five Feet Apart Film] – YouTube

Understand your value and worth are not defined by your looks, your job/career, income or popularity in society. All of that can fade away in time by no fault of your own. Life isn’t so much about where we’ve been or where we are currently. Rather, it’s more about what we’re doing today (and then tomorrow) to be happy and get to where we ultimately desire to be in the end. So, follow your dreams and discover your passions. Work hard for the things you desire and make your aspirations your driving force. Chances are, you will fail at first, but don’t give up. In time, you will gain more from your errors than you’d ever learn from being successful on the first try. When you screw-up, do your best to not repeat the same mistake again. Work to improve and do better the next time. Still, especially in the beginning, sometimes enduring is all we have energy to do right now. But with planning, patience and perseverance, many wounds can be healed, many issues can be resolved and much hope for a better tomorrow can be found again. And no matter how hard life gets, you can still make good things happen. Courage, given time, will turn your fears into memories. You simply cannot allow yourself to lose hope or give up. So don’t you give up. Don’t you quit. You keep walking, you keep trying. There is help and there is happiness ahead. It will all be alright in the end.

Rachel Platten – Fight Song (Official Video) – YouTube


Michael Jackson – Man In The Mirror Lyrics – YouTube

Without change, you’ll probably keep getting the same undesired outcome. If you want change, you’ll likely have to try something new. Talk to someone. Go see a doctor, therapist and/or professional. Educate yourself and be friendly. Build a support system that will ensure your basic needs are met by surrounding yourself with supportive, healthy, positive people who will treat you with the dignity and respect you deserve. Exercise your body and your mind, get some fresh air and go outside and enjoy nature.


Be The Change – Inspirational Video – YouTube

Once you’ve regained stability, self-worth and/or have your house back in order once again, all is not finished. You must then put into use these newly acquired skills, life experiences and knowledge for not only your own benefit, but for the good of all mankind. In life, it’s so easy to laugh, so easy to judge and so easy to hate; but it takes true courage to be gentle and to be kind. So, forget yourself—in a way and your issues and go do something positive for someone else who may be struggling. As we each endeavor to navigate our own life circumstance and insecurities, making repairs when/where able, we must also strive to aid our fellow travelers by being attentive, patient, kind and nonjudgmental. We must recognize that each one is doing the best they know how to tackle the difficulties they face and we must strive to do our best to simply listen and to love unconditionally.


Matthew McConaughey – This Is Why You’re Not Happy | One Of The Most Eye Opening Speeches – YouTube

Get out there people and share your story, your message and your light. If but one life is saved, then all the effort is worth it. Although some burdens continue life-long, as you come to accept your imperfections and flaws and strive to love yourself and love/serve others, you will find ways to cope. You will take better care of your body and your mind. You will develop enjoyable hobbies and healthy friendships. You will stop the negative self-talk and you will discover your own problems will seem fewer and your happiness and the happiness of those you impact will grow like an epidemic.


I’m currently employed and working fervently in the fight against child abuse, domestic violence, drug/alcohol addiction, suicide and attending to ill individuals nearing mortality’s end. It’s a daily struggle and sadly some battles are lost. Still, I’m determined to eventually win the war—or at least do my part in forwarding these valiant causes.

Please understand I was raised staunch LDS (Mormon) which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. If you don’t know what this means or how it has complicated my predicament, then look it up and/or feel free to ask. (Or simply check out these films as they basically portray my point:)





Indeed, I am eternally grateful for the perspective and life-lessons my upbringing has provided me. If nothing else, answers to the what, where, when, who, how and why, bring peace to the mind as well as direction, purpose and hope for the future. Even so, simply understand I’m still exploring this whole new world/perspective outside the bubble of my childhood and therefore, things for me can get a bit complicated at times, as I’m still trying to figure it all out (aren’t we all?)—thus, of course I’M NOT OUT.

One thing I certainty do believe is that “The Golden Rule” always rules (“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you”). If everyone simply lived by that, how much better would our world be? Be The Change!!

I’m extremely interested in genuine individuals, you know, the kind you could bring home to Thanksgiving Dinner with mom—not that my dear mother would ever be down for that (in fact, both our lives would certainly be in jeopardy if this ever were to occur), but you get the picture. I’m sure she means well; but unlike her, I’d like to think I don’t discriminate; so if you want to say hello, by all means please do! Everyone has a story, some more impactful than yours and others more heart-wrenching than mine. I simply cannot wait to hear yours!

If you want to know something don’t hesitate to ask. If I want you to know and if I feel you’re truly genuine and trustworthy (or as much so as your life-situation allows you to be), I typically open up. To be honest I really enjoy meeting compassionate people. Even so, if you’re not interested in chatting or getting to know me, or me getting to know you, then I’d hate to bother you or take of your precious time.

I’m definitely not interested in “slam-bam-thank-you-man”. I may live near SLUT (SL,UT) but I’m certainly not one! I’m actually looking for real connections and/or friendships long-term. Nonetheless, I do like to play around and laugh and there’s a good chance you’ll find me causing trouble—I do love to tease!—what?! Is that really so terrible? And just like all of you, I have off days too, so if you happen to catch me on one of mine, you’ll have to forgive me. I’m honestly working on my mood swings–lol. I swear I’m not a mental case—I’m just human like you.

Also, I rarely cam but when/if I do, it’s typically only on Skype (ShyUtahGuy) and only with people I’m personally interested in (individuals who also have cams themselves—so go get one for hell’s sake!—hint, hint). If you don’t have a cam then pretty much the cam thing isn’t gona happen. But that doesn’t mean we can’t be chat buddies.

Moreover, I have zero interest in violating under-age laws and although we’re not that close, I do in fact have a father, so I really don’t need another one. Therefore, preferably you are around the age of 21-50—unless of course you have a healthy 401K and you’re on your last leg. In that case, we can negotiate (I become your beneficiary, you get my undivided attention)—lmfao!

In the end, and on a more personal note, you must understand I am rather shy and very discrete—I mean I can be. If that’s a problem then I’m sorry, but thank you for stopping by.

For those of you who’ve read this far, thanks for taking the time. Apparently “Hooked On Phonics” worked for you too. But really, patience and long-suffering are virtues I deeply appreciate/value. Thank you!




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