She’s done with sex but I’m not

  • She’s done with sex but I’m not

    Posted by kytopdad on July 30, 2021 at 3:48 pm

    I married young (age 24) to the only woman I’d ever been sexually active with. We had a mostly satisfying sex life until she went through menopause about 10 years ago. Over the last 5 years, I’ve discovered a long repressed part of myself that’s given me a new lease on life. I don’t really want to blow up my marriage but I’d love the freedom to further explore. Anyone else in a similar situation?

    zach2300 replied 1 year, 2 months ago 7 Members · 8 Replies
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  • adiony93

    July 30, 2021 at 4:03 pm

    My best advice is: talk to your wife about your thoughts.

    Menopause is not forever .

  • kytopdad

    August 1, 2021 at 2:57 am

    Thanks for the feedback. I do love my wife and have never been with another woman. We have a great family too including kids and grandkids. But our married sex life waned and then stopped altogether. I don’t blame her; intercourse became too painful. She never liked giving head and consequently wasn’t very good at it. I began having some m2m experiences that really opened me up sexually. The first time another guy blew me, I thought “oh, that’s how it’s supposed to feel.” It’s also been great for my ego to be desired by other men, especially those younger than me. I found out I’m a total top. I feel like I’m only going to have a certain number of years left to enjoy sex so I take advantage of opportunities to safely indulge that side of myself. My ideal situation would be to stay married but have an open relationship, a “don’t ask, don’t tell” understanding that I’m getting my needs met elsewhere.

  • PrettyLatino_Bottom

    August 2, 2021 at 12:19 pm

    Cheer up my friend! Go step by step in this with your wife, do not rush because it is a very delicate and personal issue to try to keep your real thoughts and your marriage at the same time. I am a bi bottom and I have been with married men before and I know how much they protect their marriages but at the same time the feel like trapped in 4 walls all the time.

  • joxguy31

    August 18, 2021 at 2:48 am

    when I got married I had experimented with guys and liked it, but also love being with my wife so I put it all behind me. I was good until the internet came along and made it easy to chat and come into contact with guys like myself. Then I discovered that younger men like older men and that opened another door. I had some fun at times, but was careful just jo and oral. Skype has opened a new door. I can get intimate with a guy online and get my needs met.

  • kytopdad

    August 28, 2021 at 4:59 pm

    Finding out that younger men could find me attractive was a game-changer.

  • Unknown Member

    September 17, 2021 at 11:13 am

    There is no better tool than communication. Talk to your wife about it. She may have some of her own revelations to spring on you — who knows.

  • zach2300

    December 29, 2022 at 7:35 am

    i am str8 and live with my gf,

    my gf also changed and the sex fell dramatically

    when i started looking around i never dreamed i would be looking at guys

    i practically grew up in a locker room playing sports all thru hs and college and never once noticed guys

    not sure why now

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