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I sometimes cum to quickly when jacking by self. Would like to learn to edge longer, get the full feeling in my balls before blowing.

Any of you guys have tips on how to keep edging for an hour or 2, before blowing?

ya, dude...u just have to stop before you get that close. I edge all the time..its great, but you gotta control it.

and it may mean you dont touch ur cock again for a minute or two while u settle down.

is it true when you edge for like an hour a day it gives you more control over your orgasm when you're topping ?

Yes. Learning to edge for a long time brings you heights of sexual pleasure you never dreamed of.

The secret to learning this kind of control is summed up in one word: SLOW. The younger you are the more difficult it is, but it is worth the effort.

Bring your arousal lever up slowly. Get in a comfortable position and make sure you are in a warm room, where you won't get a sudden chill. Its okay if you want to watch porno while trying to learn edging, but it is sometimes more difficult. The reason is you tend to speed up your own stroking when the action onscreen gets hot. For me, learning edging control was easier when accompanied by written porno, because I could take my time, take a break now and then, and even reread an interesting passage.

Another way is to watch one of those YouTube-type videos which feature a succession of still pictures of hot guys. You can pause on a hot pic, look at some again, or take a break. There are some of these on this site and I had a terrific orgasm to one of them yesterday.

While you are watching, start stroking your cock slowly. Use a downstroke to a count of ONE-one-thou-sand, TWO-one-thou-sand, and then an upstroke to the count of ONE-one-thou-sand, TWO-one-thou-sand. Sounds nutty, I suppose but counting keeps you from going too fast. You will feel your arousal build up slowly. The younger you are the faster your cock will get hard and your arousal will reach a high point sooner too. You see if you control your arousal level from the very beginning, you have an excellent chance of being able to control the approach of ejaculation. If you start stroking quickly, and your arousal level rises fast, the urge to ejaculate can be almost overwhelming.

Done this way, you will also learn to appreciate the many levels of arousal along the way to the highest point. When you are younger, your cock will get hard fast, stay hard almost always and sometimes be so hard it is painful. As you get into your late 30s, you will sometimes experience a high level of arousal while your cock isn't like a rock and sometimes your cock is like a rock while your arousal feels like it is catching up. But as you learn to appreciate the lower and intermediate levels of arousal, you become more aware of the rest of your body; the pleasing feeling of your balls up tight against your body and how sensitive your nips can be and how much pleasure can be had from pinching them, the tingling of your inner thighs, your earlobes, your lips and even your feet.

I have found that in the last few years it is incredibly pleasurable to stay in this heightened state, so much so that I sometimes decided not to shoot my load at all, even for several days. Once I edged every day for a week without shooting. When I spent all that time edging, my whole body came alive but I also felt an increase in my general energy level. Each day also had a sensuous quality. I was aware of my body inside my clothes. When I used the bathroom it was like a 2-minute booster shot of pleasure during the workday. I also became more patient and I swear I had a better complexion too.

The best thing about edging is that it is a form of pleasure that is FREE! The next best thing about it is that it has nothing to do with personal attractiveness or age. I am 50 years old and carrying extra pounds and gray hair, but sometimes I smile to myself throughout the day, looking at my co-workers and thinking "I'm rather ordinary on the outside, but if they only knew......!"

Lighten your grip. There will be less sensation and so you can go a longer time.

Use spit as lube. It dries out and so you are forced to take a break once in a while to re-lube.

Thanks for the input, will have to give it a try. Would love to be able to edge for a day or so!

Anyone else find that if they edge for too long (like on and off for a whole day, or for more than one day) they can't sleep? Reminds me of that Seinfeld episode with the bet; happens to me a lot (not being able to sleep, not the bet).

You think it is worth it to lose a nights sleep?

UncleverName saidAnyone else find that if they edge for too long (like on and off for a whole day, or for more than one day) they can't sleep? Reminds me of that Seinfeld episode with the bet; happens to me a lot (not being able to sleep, not the bet).

been there...it feels good until the next morning when you gotta get up. best to try it on a weekend...cause, ya..it is worth it. nothing like laying in bed, raging hard and on the edge and just staying there...just an occasional flick of the nipples, or light ball graze, or fingertip brush on the underside of your shaft...all night long...all night...all night...all night long...all night...all night (ya, sometimes you go a little insane and channel Lionel Richie).

Take a break from orgaziming. I recently waited almost two weeks and found I had amazing control during sex.

UncleverName saidAnyone else find that if they edge for too long (like on and off for a whole day, or for more than one day) they can't sleep?

YES, UGH!

It is at that point that you wish you were happily lying next to someone who could take care of it.