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When I asked that guy "why wouldn't you start working out ?" he said :

I just don't feel connected to it , If I work out I'd probably feel attracted to my own body ..
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So when you look in the mirror ... ?

I have my days, yeah. Most time time I don't even think about it though.

No I am not my type. I have better things to do then body worship myself! That being said I like looking and feeling good. I find being fit has many benefits, not just how you look in the mirror. Greater energy (mental and physical), a more positive outlook on life, and more time away from the boob tube which seems to be degenerating at an exponential rate. Finally my partner really appreciates my leaner more muscular look. I was a bit chunky when we first met so it was a pleasant surprise for him when I got "ripped" last year (his words not mine).

Sometimes.... when the fogs of inferiority complex clear up enough for me to appreciate what I am and what I see in the mirror. But yeah, rare days.

Maybe back when I was 13 and had totally washboard abs. But, as SurrealLife says above, I'm not my type.

its bad but yes. i am attracted to me lol.

I'm attracted to a different "type" than myself, so I'm not attracted to myself... although I recognize that I am the "type" of attractive that some guys (luckily, often guys I go for) are attracted to.

It's really embarrassing but I have "checked someone out" in a store only to realize I was looking at a mirror across the room. So I guess I am, somewhat... Generally end up dating/hooking up with guys that are pretty much my opposite.

I like to say that healthy self esteem allows us to say, on occassion, "I deserve better," when looking at even our most loving partner and, "I'd sleep with me," when looking at ourselves in the mirror. If this were playing on a constant loop it would be narcissistic, but having those moments just means having a healthy sense of self, sense of worth, and positive body image. That's my take on these things.

To also answer for myself I would say that after putting on more muscle, I found myself more attractive.

Well, I wouldn't be my first choice but I wouldn't kick myself to the curb either

Like others here, I am not really my own type. But, as bad as this might sound, I definitely find myself a lot more attractive now that I have put on some muscle.

rasiya saidIt's really embarrassing but I have "checked someone out" in a store only to realize I was looking at a mirror across the room. So I guess I am, somewhat... Generally end up dating/hooking up with guys that are pretty much my opposite.

OMFG - I've done this before too! LOL!!

god no!

You know, after a lifetime of being told to "go fuck myself" and thinking that it was at best just a figure of speech, one day I looked at myself in the mirror.

I licked my lips, arched my back a little, gave myself a coy "come-hither" look....

but that wasn't enough, by itself. First I bought myself a drink, and listened to my own cheesy pickup lines:

"Come here often?"

"Where? the living room? Yeah, I guess, though sometimes I hang out in the den or the laundry room."

"Any more like you at home?"

"No," and here I modestly cast down my eyes. "I'm one of a kind."

"I'll say you are." And then, when my back is turned, I slip a couple of roofies into my wineglass and the next thing you know I'm in the bedroom, taking ruthless advantage of myself.

I always feel terrible afterwards.

jprichva saidYou know, after a lifetime of being told to "go fuck myself" and thinking that it was at best just a figure of speech, one day I looked at myself in the mirror.

I licked my lips, arched my back a little, gave myself a coy "come-hither" look....

but that wasn't enough, by itself. First I bought myself a drink, and listened to my own cheesy pickup lines:

"Come here often?"

"Where? the living room? Yeah, I guess, though sometimes I hang out in the den or the laundry room."

"Any more like you at home?"

"No," and here I modestly cast down my eyes. "I'm one of a kind."

"I'll say you are." And then, when my back is turned, I slip a couple of roofies into my wineglass and the next thing you know I'm in the bedroom, taking ruthless advantage of myself.

I always feel terrible afterwards.

LMAO!! The same thing happened to me once!!

Buffalo Bill said it best.

"I'd F*** me" and I really would too.

I believe you have to be your own worst critic and your own biggest fan. You know all your own flaws, but you love yourself despite (if not because) of them.

Feeling attractive isn't about some narcissistic desire of oneself, it's about feeling content in your own skin.

GHoSTa said
When I asked that guy "why wouldn't you start working out ?" he said :

I just don't feel connected to it , If I work out I'd probably feel attracted to my own body ..

That's probably the worst reason I've ever heard for not working out.

Oh and jprichva you get my vote for best post of the day

Oh - I'd totally do me. But I prefer guys that are more ripped like GregStevensTX or EricLA.

bwg77 saidWell, I wouldn't be my first choice but I wouldn't kick myself to the curb either

Neither would I

I wish I had a clone. I love myself and I'll do me anytime. I did myself last night and I'm doing ti again tonight. I just hope I don't get an STD from myself

No, sometimes I even have to slip myself some roofies to date rape myself.

RBY, why do you make me laugh at things that are so wrong?

Narcissism at it's FINEST!!! LMAO!!!

I'd FUCK me MOST of the time, not always though!

RBY71 saidNo, sometimes I even have to slip myself some roofies to date rape myself.

You don't like yourself? that's fine, I like you, we'll make a great couple

RBY71 saidNo, sometimes I even have to slip myself some roofies to date rape myself.

Can I watch?

Chizzad saidYes that is why I had to remove all the mirrors from the house. Everytime I passed one I always ended up masturbating soon after

Now we know Chizzad's weakness!

"Kids, there's a scary man out there known as the Chizzad. Watch out, he's a frightfully sexy man. If you ever see him, pull out this pocket mirror I'm about to give you, you throw it at him and you run straight home and you don't look back! You hear me?"

Chizzad saidYes that is why I had to remove all the mirrors from the house. Everytime I passed one I always ended up masturbating soon after

haha... scandals!

I am very polar on this subject- sometimes I think I look really good, and other times I think I look like the grossest thing that ever was born.... depends on the day.

But generally im not attracted to guys 'like' me, so I'm not sure how attracted to myself I am...

what a narcissistic topic!!

jprichva saidYou know, after a lifetime of being told to "go fuck myself" and thinking that it was at best just a figure of speech, one day I looked at myself in the mirror.

I licked my lips, arched my back a little, gave myself a coy "come-hither" look....

but that wasn't enough, by itself. First I bought myself a drink, and listened to my own cheesy pickup lines:

"Come here often?"

"Where? the living room? Yeah, I guess, though sometimes I hang out in the den or the laundry room."

"Any more like you at home?"

"No," and here I modestly cast down my eyes. "I'm one of a kind."

"I'll say you are." And then, when my back is turned, I slip a couple of roofies into my wineglass and the next thing you know I'm in the bedroom, taking ruthless advantage of myself.

I always feel terrible afterwards.

ROFLMAO

Would you classify this as a moral failure?

OK, I admit I did feel attracted to myself once. But then I stood myself up, and I totally lost interest.

I certainly wont' go so far as to say that I'm attracted to myself; I personally don't see myself *nearly* where I want to be. However, I have gotten up on some mornings, zombie stumbled into my bathroom shirtless or naked, looked at myself in the mirror, and done a bonefied double-take and long stare at myself. It's usually only in those moments when I first wake up, I suppose after I haven't had any access to mirrors or reflective surfaces for 6-8 hours, that I notice the progress I've made in working out.

*shrug*

Not sure if that technically qualifies as narcissism or not.

I'd fuck me.

rasiya saidIt's really embarrassing but I have "checked someone out" in a store only to realize I was looking at a mirror across the room. So I guess I am, somewhat... Generally end up dating/hooking up with guys that are pretty much my opposite.

LOL...this was funny.

jprichva saidYou know, after a lifetime of being told to "go fuck myself" and thinking that it was at best just a figure of speech, one day I looked at myself in the mirror.

I licked my lips, arched my back a little, gave myself a coy "come-hither" look....

but that wasn't enough, by itself. First I bought myself a drink, and listened to my own cheesy pickup lines:

"Come here often?"

"Where? the living room? Yeah, I guess, though sometimes I hang out in the den or the laundry room."

"Any more like you at home?"

"No," and here I modestly cast down my eyes. "I'm one of a kind."

"I'll say you are." And then, when my back is turned, I slip a couple of roofies into my wineglass and the next thing you know I'm in the bedroom, taking ruthless advantage of myself.

I always feel terrible afterwards.

I think this was juuuuust a tad too detailed to be taken as a joke.

Years ago when I lived at home I let in a few friends that came by and rang my doorbell. As they walked into my house they caught a glimpse of my sleeping brother on the sofa and they stopped in their tracks and lightly chuckled. Without hesitation they both exclaimed that they thought it was me on the sofa sleeping and were shocked.
I asked them both, "Do you two really think I look so much like my ugly ass brother?" They exuberantly replied with a big "YES." So from that day I onward I was a bit affected by it. I think there are days when I look good as in very healthy and skin looks good/even but I wouldn't clone myself to have sex with myself. Not saying I don't like the way I look but I'm not my type.

GHoSTa said
When I asked that guy "why wouldn't you start working out ?" he said :

I just don't feel connected to it , If I work out I'd probably feel attracted to my own body ..
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So when you look in the mirror ... ?

when i look in the mirror i have to masturbate. yes i am so hot lol

no, unfortunately not :-(

"Sometimes this face looks so funny,
that I hide it, behind a book,
But, sometimes this face,
has so much class,
that I have to sneak a second look"

-'Either or Both' by Phoebe Snow

Well somebody's gotta do it.

Like rasiya, there have been times that I've caught myself looking at someone out of the corner of my eye at the gym only to find out that it's my refelction in the mirror.
Would I date me, no. BUT...I wouldn't kick myself out of bed either...I'd fuck my ass. LOL!

No, I HATE the way I look.....

The ONLY reason I work out is because it gets blowjobs and ass...

It's a chore.

GregStevensTX said... I'm not attracted to myself... although I recognize that I am the "type" of attractive that some guys (luckily, often guys I go for) are attracted to.

oh greg, you crack me up! you can't help it can you?

Sure, I'd do me!

of course, I'd like to be in more shape, ie, bigger arms, abs.. you know, get all muscly

If "making love" to yourself feels like a mercy f... is the answer no ?

YEP. I would. I wouldn't allow myself to slip away since it would be one of those one in a million dream opportunities, mentally and physically. It would also help to have someone slap me and put me in my place every now and then. The sex would always be primal and satisfying too.

I think I have an attractive body and I get the "your handsome" often but I'm not attracted to myself like that... o_0


What a wierd topic to think about...

To quote Silence of the Lambs, "Would you fuck me?..... I'd fuck me...... I'd fuck me hard."
I only go to nightclubs with mirrors on the walls because that way I can have the best dance partner there. LOL!

I suppose, if I didn't, don't think I could come up with the idea that there are millions of people out there avoiding collection calls just to get by and clear a path for me, investing in things which nourish me on my quest by focusing on the here and now. I don't know, sounded good.

it is called otosexuality. bodybuilding or fitness is also an otosexual thing for gays. i am sure all the gays who have sexy bodies are atracted to their own bodies.

nah... I am to hard on myself. When I look down all I see in imperfections. Makes me work harder at the gym!

wolfeman saidnah... I am to hard on myself. When I look down all I see in imperfections. Makes me work harder at the gym!

I'm almost like you, but I'm not hard on myself, I get me hard

Not really...i mean i have my days when i feel like i look good, but generally...no.

A related story:

A friend of my boyfriend's was in a bar after a few drinks one night. And he saw a guy kind of looking at him, and he thought, "Well, he's cute enough to take him home tonight, but not cute enough to call the next day." The friend starts walking across the room to approach the guy, and the other guy notices because he starts walking towards him as well..... and then he ran into the mirror.

He recounts that the saddest thing about the story is that he thought he was cute enough to take home but not enough to call the next day.

Id do me.....

I work out so that some day I will maybe think I am at least semi attractive

I don't know how attracted I am to myself per se, but there are days when I just can't seem to keep my hands off myself

I'd do me - I'd even take me to breakfast the next morning - heck, I'd even propose to me!

chinosurfguy said I work out so that some day I will maybe think I am at least semi attractive

Dude you are way cute!

There is a joke wich goes around my collage about gay guys and it gos like this
"if a gay guy has no pron what does he wank over? there reflection"

to be honest i dont think its funny at all i have nether looked in the mirrow and tought oh i want a wank now lol i think you have to be warther sad to wank over your self

Hmm... Now I'm thinking of a layout for a new nightclub, The Narcissus, with a grid of mirrors arranged on the floor and very flattering lighting arrangements. The cover charge will be at least twice as high as the rest of the places in town. Discreet stalls provided in the restroom. With mirrors, of course.

Oh! And slots in the mirrors where you can stuff dollar bills to tip the stripper!

Seriously, sometimes I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and think "hot." Two minutes later, I look again and it's "ewwww." Maybe I shouldn't have got these cheap used mirrors from the funhouse.

Craigory123 saidA related story:

A friend of my boyfriend's was in a bar after a few drinks one night. And he saw a guy kind of looking at him, and he thought, "Well, he's cute enough to take him home tonight, but not cute enough to call the next day." The friend starts walking across the room to approach the guy, and the other guy notices because he starts walking towards him as well..... and then he ran into the mirror.

He recounts that the saddest thing about the story is that he thought he was cute enough to take home but not enough to call the next day.

that's hilarious
lol

Hello! Look at me. ;)

I hope this isn't a non sequitur, but Gore Vidal said that "a narcissist is anyone better looking than you."

Thought: Oh yeah, I'd screw him.

I DO have a mirror on my ceiling above my bed....needless to say i dont leave my bed often......

NO, I don't care for tall guys

I've never been attracted to myself except when I'm drunk off tequila.

Then again when I'm drunk off tequila, I'm anybody's.

GHoSTa said
When I asked that guy "why wouldn't you start working out ?" he said :

I just don't feel connected to it , If I work out I'd probably feel attracted to my own body ..

Just like me: I think if I workout, I would be in love with my body, and... I would feel connected with the always-smiling guy I was.

I'm trying to start to workout, so, I hope to upload some pics of my new body in a near future

I have mirrored wardrobes.

i'd do me.....twice, then repeat

I can't believe some of you said yes...especially since you know where you have been. JK

I would take myself home if it was 2am and all the young hot boys had already found someone.

spinningguy saidI can't believe some of you said yes...especially since you know where you have been. JK

I would take myself home if it was 2am and all the young hot boys had already found someone.

you're right, I know where I've been but I still do me every day.

I think this is actually a very complicated question, and it depends on what level you're talking about when you say "attracted to"....

When I'm with a guy who absolutely goes nuts over my body, I think of and see my body "through his eyes" and I turn myself on incredibly. I focus on what I know he's attracted to and how I must look to him, how I must fulfilll his fantasies, etc. So in that sense I am turned on by my body.

However, when I'm at a club and guys who have a similar build to me hit on me, I totally look right past them to the lean/defined pretty-boy in the corner. I'm not turned on by the idea of being with a guy as bulky as I am. So in that sense my body doesn't turn me on.

GregStevensTX saidI think this is actually a very complicated question, and it depends on what level you're talking about when you say "attracted to"....

When I'm with a guy who absolutely goes nuts over my body, I think of and see my body "through his eyes" and I turn myself on incredibly. I focus on what I know he's attracted to and how I must look to him, how I must fulfilll his fantasies, etc. So in that sense I am turned on by my body.

However, when I'm at a club and guys who have a similar build to me hit on me, I totally look right past them to the lean/defined pretty-boy in the corner. I'm not turned on by the idea of being with a guy as bulky as I am. So in that sense my body doesn't turn me on.

You have a point here ! I always said that the good thing in bieng gay is that you know what can attract other men to you, as you know what can attract you to other men .. gay couple are the same sex and attracted to the same sex , that makes it easier for them to understand each other's needs and passions .. .. lucky to be gay !

rasiya saidIt's really embarrassing but I have "checked someone out" in a store only to realize I was looking at a mirror across the room. So I guess I am, somewhat... Generally end up dating/hooking up with guys that are pretty much my opposite.

Ditto.

KingBee38 saidNo, I HATE the way I look.....

The ONLY reason I work out is because it gets blowjobs and ass...

It's a chore.

Thanks for the honesty. You've basically answered for a large majority of why a lot of gay men workout to be in good shape. To get sex.

GregStevensTX saidI'm not turned on by the idea of being with a guy as bulky as I am. So in that sense my body doesn't turn me on.

You consider yourself bulky at 175 at a height of 5'11"? So what am I? Obese?



Sniffle... !

muchmorethanmuscle said

KingBee38 saidNo, I HATE the way I look.....

The ONLY reason I work out is because it gets blowjobs and ass...

It's a chore.

Thanks for the honesty. You've basically answered for a large majority of why a lot of gay men workout to be in good shape. To get sex.

Yeah, I thought that was kind of a strange thing to say too. Its kinda demeaning to those of us who want to be in shape for reasons other than getting sex. Not to mention, extremely shallow.

NO, I am way not my type.

I work out to be healthy, to be able to play Volleyball well and to aid in my career lugging around heavy Camera gear and doing long hours of hand-held shooting.


My type are guys like Sedative and Dr Jack --- smooth and thin.

Do I feel ATTRACTED to myself?!... No, not truly... More of a contemplative pride than an actual attraction..

Do I find myself ATTRACTIVE?!... Though that took me some time to admit, I ultimately can say 'yes'... I find myself relatively attractive..

Would I fuck myself?!.... Why not?!... Just to get an idea of what it feels to.... you know?!.. Fuck me!!.... Because I find that masturbating does not relay that experience quite faithfully - nor would someone else!!...

Chizzad saidYes that is why I had to remove all the mirrors from the house. Everytime I passed one I always ended up masturbating soon after

I can see that... everytime I see you I masterbate too...lookin at myself? not so much!

good heavens no, I'd prefer to look at someone else.

yes... both the insides and the outs.

I like me, but I wouldn't date me.

I have commitment issues

I'm not that attracted to myself. Sometimes I wonder why my bf likes me so much

Well, actually. . . yeah. And I think that's healthy, not egotistical.

another one of those questions that make me feel awkward to reveal what is really or has really gone on in my head.
I'm definitely not attracted to myself. As a child I thought I was ugly yet I can't find one ugly childhood photo, I was actually a handsome boy. In my teens I got a great haircut one day and was really impressed with my own beauty. But then I gained some weight and not until I worked out and was 125lbs, the ladies in the grocery store where turning around to look at me. I can't be for sure but I think I was molested as a 2 year old in the hospital. And I don't like to be stared at in public for being nice looking. That is probably why I seem to gain weight in the summer and lose it in the winter as a protective mechanism.
In the morning while I have shave cream on one side of my face I like the way my eyes look and I'm glad to like it. Since most of the rest of the day I'm not impressed with my looks. It's one of those simple pleasures I hope to not live without.
I have one fingernail deformity I was born with and so far no one has ever been turned off by it but I'm constantly hiding it.
And I'm one of the hairiest you'll ever see, but I prefer smooth or some body hair.
I'm glad for the guys that like themselves though, I'm jealous they like to fuck themselves, that's just not fair to look that good but somebodies got to be there. I'd like to give myself a blowjob.

Not really. I'm proud of what I've done with my body, but I'm not turned on by it. And besides, I'm not my type...I'm wayyy too old for my own tastes.

Hey, you know what??

I am good with my own skin!

Narcissistic....maybe a dash.......

Hedonistic...just a touch......

Egoistic.......just a tad.......

Want a taste?

I got what you want!

LOL

It's for fun and I am a bag of laughs...LOL

Yeah, i'd have sex with myself. However to date myself not so much... I'd prolly break my own heart.

i was recently in in the mood to get off and didnt have any available porn,but i did catch a nice view of myself in the mirror and that was the start of something good. I guess I'm my type. Slightly strange i guess.

I think I agree with a lot of the guys here. I'm just not my type. I hate to say it, but I'm never attracted to guys who are as short as me. I think I like being the little guy, lol.

I wonder if anybody here started to feel attracted to his own body only after he gained some muscle mass .. I guess it can happen ..right?

I'd do me.

Well I have to say that I prefer my body more now that I work out, and I can imagine myself getting to a great narcisstic state.

<----Uglier than a stick!

Yeah I'd sleep with me. Would I date me... it would be awkward my personality would clash with it's self.

I don't think it's narcissistic though just proof of satisfaction with yourself. Certainly healthier than plastic surgery.

Reminds me of that shirt that says, "I'd do me!"

cjcscuba1984 said<----Uglier than a stick!

You mean hit with an ugly stick? And a big one ta boot? I don't think so


I, on the other hand, am truly becoming one sexy beast of a guy. Just wait until my facial hair finally grows out!

If you make it a goal to take better care of yourself, it positively motivates you in your foreplay and assertiveness.

Feeling better about yourself makes you a better lover.