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Just a question.
For me, and I'm not knocking anyone when saying this, but I find a guy more attractive if he doesn't have pictures of his unit on the web.

I mean, say you get into a relationship with someone who has nudes on his online profile...how many hundreds of people have seen what you get when you're between the sheets???!?!?!?!

I made my ex take his shirtless picture down off his myspace just because I didn't want all of his little sex-craved twinky friends gawking at my man....


maybe i have a jealousy issue or something, but it's just the way I think.

Well, making your man take down his shirtless won't stop him from sleeping around, if that's what he wants to do. You can't change people, especially men, for we hate being forced into corners.

I don't mind chatting with guys who have private X-rated pictures. I'm a guy, so I like to look. Still, I know what type of guy I'd like to become romantically involved with. I value restraint and tame behavior, so a guy with nude pictures would probably become my friend or play buddy. Entertaining anything more would be highly unlikely.

Nice cat.

Not a factor.

Unless the guy is a total sex-starved maniac looking for camsex it doesn't bother me, and yeah, I like to look too. ;P

It's just a fact that some people are exhibitionistic and are totally uninhibited. That doesn't make them any less sensitive or human than the total prudes who won't even take off their shirts.

If you start arbitrarily classifying people because they have nude pics/no pics/faceless pics/unverified pics/have a healthy libido (or not)/extroverted or not/physical appearance/etc., you'll miss out on a lot. Give it a chance, even if only for friendship, chances are you'll find they're as human as you are.

That said, there are the creepizoids out there. And I just show them a picture of my elephant dick to scare them away. j/k ROFL

Meow

P.S. you're partnered, it's understandable to not be comfortable with your BF showing his stuff around, LOL.

P.P.S. and no, I have never and will never show nude pics or have camsex online, ever.

Don't assume that all private pics are of the guy's naked parts. My private pics are of my face. I think that's a lot more personal that just my body or my wang. Therefore, they're private. Just how I roll.

stonecoldfoxboy saidDon't assume that all private pics are of the guy's naked parts. My private pics are of my face. I think that's a lot more personal that just my body or my wang. Therefore, they're private. Just how I roll.

gud point.... my prive is me barely clothed and does leave a smidgen to imagination...

Same here; my private pix are just more like the others... underwear no shirt.

Only if his private pics are of his face and they are CLEAR pics (no camera in front of his face, no sunglasses and no hat pulled down over his eyes).

Not at all...
If a guy's nice
and wants to chat I'm open
Don't get me wrong... Pvt pics are always nice to look at but
I won't not talk to someone because they don't have them

I talk to pretty much everyone. Pic's or no pic's. Im just hesitant to talk with the guys with no pic's or filled in profiles.

As far as private pic's go. I still have some in my file. There not showing anything too bad. I dont show my package at all. I think you went a little overboard by having your ex take down his shirtless pic's.

I'll talk to anybody, but their choice of pics could factor into how seriously I would get involved with them. I'm not interested in cock pics. Tasteful nudes can be a different matter to me.

I see where you're coming from. My ex had private pics, which I actually didn't end up seeing till after we started going out (not that it mattered cause I had the real thing anyway

But later I found out that he was very...... "outgoing" we'll say with his private pics, because he was in the habit of sending out several emails of nude photos to people that he had talked to after only one night. And when I say several, I mean SEVERAL, like 4-5 every night. So when I found this out it did turn me off a little, for the same reasons. When it comes down to everything, its like yeah I had him not just his pictures but I still had that slightly jealous or angry feeling.

But then things started getting sour. And at one point, he started emailing and chatting with people again, and he had sent an email to one of my friends that he had not met (haha what a coincidence) but my friend had seen him cause I had pictures etc. etc. Anyway long story short... it didn't work out. lol

And my take on the situation..... while I don't think any less of him for having the pictures or sending them at the frequency that he did/still does, it did get to me a little and was a slight turn off to know that pretty much ever gay guy in Boston (especially the Latinos and even further Brazilians) has seen his private pictures. lol

But I don't think I would chose one person over another over private pics. I do see where you're coming from though

They are what they are, however bottom line is there MUST be a face pic in there some where!!!!

Sometimes mystery could be fun but not all the time! Jealousy, only you can determine how bad it is and if it causes you problems then you can work on it!

Still working on mine !

Yeah, I agree. Don't assume that all private pics are of naked bodies with nasty bulging erections. My private picture is of me naked. But the picture is cut at the hips. So just because you can see some hips but no bush or anything like that his showing so RJ deemed that this picture couldn't be public. Otherwise all my pictures would be public.

a1972guy saidThey are what they are, however bottom line is there MUST be a face pic in there some where!!!!

Ditto!

I'm not keen on dick pics, or even worse, the "check out my big brown asshole" pics, but hey, if a guy wants to have them on his profile, I'm not necessarily going to dismiss him as "unworthy" of my friendship....most likely if I were to grow close to him, I'd constantly remind him that he was an internet-whore when I met him.

However, if I were to be dating a guy and he told me what sorta pics I was "allowed" to have on my profile....I'd be thinking...."Oh BIG RED FLAG...someone has some control issues!" and I'd be long-gone.

Personally I would never post nude pictures of myself. on the web because that's not my thing, more power to guys that do.


My ex-lover and deleted our profiles when we were coupled, because there was no need to be on a dating website because we had each other. We chatted with our friends using our private emails addresses.

This issue was never an issue with us. If he did have nude pictures, I would not ask him to take them down too controling!

I don't think any less of those who do have private pics, and I don't assume that they're always of the private area.

for someone to be comfortable enough with their body to put up pictures of it is admirable or something of the sort.

but yes, like a lot of you said, you might think twice about getting romantically involved with that person.

and again, I'm not knocking those who have private pics.

my ex is very good looking, and therefore had a lot of guys messaging him, asking to get together with him.
it bothered me a great deal, obviously.
there was a circumstance that arose when he thought that he was just getting together to hangout with one of his online "friends". this "friend" and i use the term loosely, ended up groping him and trying to get in his pants.

needless to say after he took the shirtless pic down, the hoards of guys creeping on him slowly diminished.

I personally think that it's sexier when more things are left to the imagination.

but I mean a face pic is necessary, I like to put a face to a name and email address.

muchmorethanmuscle saidYeah, I agree. Don't assume that all private pics are of naked bodies with nasty bulging erections. My private picture is of me naked. But the picture is cut at the hips. So just because you can see some hips but no bush or anything like that his showing so RJ deemed that this picture couldn't be public. Otherwise all my pictures would be public.

I've found rj to be hugely inconsistent with what they will and won't accept for public pictures.

and one more thing, I didn't make him take the pic down, I told him that the amount of attention that he was receiving from his online male friends was starting to get to me a little.

He did the courteous thing, because he loved me, and took it down.

he would have asked me to do the same, or so he said.

JerJo saidJust a question.
For me, and I'm not knocking anyone when saying this, but I find a guy more attractive if he doesn't have pictures of his unit on the web.

I made my ex take his shirtless picture down off his myspace just because I didn't want all of his little sex-craved twinky friends gawking at my man....


maybe i have a jealousy issue or something, but it's just the way I think.

Though I wouldn't have my ex take down a pic, I agree. Even though it really doesn't matter to me, if anything, private pics are a turnoff. The reason I don't let it alter my opinion is because some guys' private pics are just pics they would rarely show somebody, not just naked pics. So I don't mind, but you probably wouldn't find me being interested in a guy on here that has unlocked naked pics of himself. I think the human body is beautiful in any light, but keeping parts of it hidden creates a nice sense of security and curious eroticism about somebody.

My private pics are just my "before" pics - me with no shirt and wearing gym shorts. Certainly nothing anyone would want to see!

Someone in another forum thread suggested to a guy who said he was embarrassed to have shirtless pics in his profile that he make them private so only he could look at them for motivation, and I thought that was a great idea. Thus, my private pics. Just for me!

innerathlete said
I've found rj to be hugely inconsistent with what they will and won't accept for public pictures.

TRUE that...I mean I have one of me sitting at my desk. It shows my lower abs but no bush or shaft or anything and they made me put it in privates. But, if you look at rocco's profile...jeez...u see a lot more than that. I guess you have to be an RJ darling...

JerJo saidand one more thing, I didn't make him take the pic down, I told him that the amount of attention that he was receiving from his online male friends was starting to get to me a little.

He did the courteous thing, because he loved me, and took it down.

he would have asked me to do the same, or so he said.

ummm, but didnt you just say that you made him take it down??

tommysguns2000 said

JerJo saidand one more thing, I didn't make him take the pic down, I told him that the amount of attention that he was receiving from his online male friends was starting to get to me a little.

He did the courteous thing, because he loved me, and took it down.

he would have asked me to do the same, or so he said.

ummm, but didnt you just say that you made him take it down??

I suppose he might have been being just a LITTLE too dramatic.

I'm more worried about finding a guy friend...

What is disappointing to me is how many guys won't show their face in the public pictures. This is not a porn site. Nothing to be ashamed of here.

It is always kind of sad to open up the private pics only to see just their face. Don't get me wrong... I'm not expecting to see everyone with a massive 10-inch hard-on (though that is always nice), but it is always good to see just a little bit more in the private pics than you do in the public pics.

Simple matter of a good tease ;)

Hey BigSETX, I have a few pictures of massive units I should send you for shits and giggles.

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I've found rj to be hugely inconsistent with what they will and won't accept for public pictures.
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I agree completely. I've emailed them about my concerns and they never respond back.


Rude!

yes i did say i made him.

my mistake, i was just trying to make a long story short, in a way my feelings toward the attention given to the picture made him take it down.

i didnt physically or conditionally make him take it down.

yeesh. lol.

JerJo saidI made my ex take his shirtless picture down off his myspace just because I didn't want all of his little sex-craved twinky friends gawking at my man....

maybe i have a jealousy issue or something, but it's just the way I think.

What? You "made your ex take his shirtless pictures down?"
WTF? I wouldn't have a BF that tried to make me do anything, nor would I ever try to MAKE him do anything. I'd say you have a fucked idea about what a relationship is. Look into the mirror and work on your jealousy issues.

Men are going to look. You look too. Get over it.

its about confidence bro. if he wants to share his goods with the world u should let him. he is with u because he wants to be, so u shouldnt fear that nude pics of him might have him being picked up. if he is proud, be proud with him, and smile in the fact that although all of these people might see, you get to go home with it.

wow.

BigSETXjock saidWhat is disappointing to me is how many guys won't show their face in the public pictures. This is not a porn site. Nothing to be ashamed of here.

It is always kind of sad to open up the private pics only to see just their face. Don't get me wrong... I'm not expecting to see everyone with a massive 10-inch hard-on (though that is always nice), but it is always good to see just a little bit more in the private pics than you do in the public pics.

Simple matter of a good tease ;)

BigSETX... easy for u to say but do u show ur 10 inch rod LOL in ur private pics

BigSETXjock said

JerJo saidI made my ex take his shirtless picture down off his myspace just because I didn't want all of his little sex-craved twinky friends gawking at my man....

maybe i have a jealousy issue or something, but it's just the way I think.

What? You "made your ex take his shirtless pictures down?"
WTF? I wouldn't have a BF that tried to make me do anything, nor would I ever try to MAKE him do anything. I'd say you have a fucked idea about what a relationship is. Look into the mirror and work on your jealousy issues.

Men are going to look. You look too. Get over it.

I totally agree with bigsetxjock on this one. I hate opening a guys private pics and just seeing a shit eating grin. I want cock lol. Are atleast a hardon in boxers. Maybe these guys don't have anything good to show anyway. Then there are all these headless torsos. Like who in hell are you hiding from?This site is so tame compared to alot of other shit out there. Do you see ads for pornos or dildos here? Please people get some balls!

I think that people who are so eager to see the private pix seem disappointed because they basically jumped the gun in assuming that private pix means "privates".

Guess what? It doesn't mean that at all. Private pix are pix that people consider personal and that could be a number of things. Most people automatically assume it's something sexual and therefore assume they should see something like an ass or cock.

Maybe if guys didn't expect to see so much in private pix (sexual photos) they wouldn't be so disappointed. I never ask to see a person's private pix and I find it rather distasteful when people ask to see mine. If I wanted to show them my private pix I would so asking me to see them isn't required. It's a little disrespectful too because most guys who want to see private pix have sexual intentions (prove me wrong) and then get mad when it's not what they thought it would (they wanted cock/ass instead they got a face, goofy pic, or something else that's nonsexual).

If you want to see pix of that sexual nature then I think alot of you are on the wrong site. If you want to see a cock or an ass pic there are plenty of other sites you can go so you shouldn't expect much from here. You create your own sorrow and disappointment from an assumed expectation concerning the word private pix.

To the original question of the post: I would talk to anyone with or without private pix since in reality all I am doing is chatting and I have the power to choose with whom I chat with. It's that simple. I don't need to see what they have underneath their shirt or jeans and I never ask to see a person's private pix regardless of how hot (or not) they are. It's unecessary to me. If they want to show me of their own free will then that's cool. I can choose to look or not look and in doing so I hope they don't expect anything from me just because they decided to show me something I orginally didn't ask to see.

I'm always flattered by the notion but it doesn't mean I'll return the favor by showing mine. I find it hilarious when people get bent out of shape because they showed you something and feel like they are owed a peek at your pix. Sorry but it doesn't work that way in reality. I do, however, like knowing who I am talking to when chatting so having a pic of some sort helps but again I can understand why some people are reluctant to reveil themselves (somewhat). In the long run though it really helps to have a pic since it gives a person an idea of who they are dealing with, especially a face pic, but it's not a deciding factor.

you guys (bigsetxjock and dreamdrop) need to read the thread before responding. DUH!


also - yeah my private pics are my face. If i feel i can trust you, you get to see .

JerJo saidJust a question.
For me, and I'm not knocking anyone when saying this, but I find a guy more attractive if he doesn't have pictures of his unit on the web.

I mean, say you get into a relationship with someone who has nudes on his online profile...how many hundreds of people have seen what you get when you're between the sheets???!?!?!?!

I made my ex take his shirtless picture down off his myspace just because I didn't want all of his little sex-craved twinky friends gawking at my man....


maybe i have a jealousy issue or something, but it's just the way I think.

It's a respect thing -- and I completely agree with you. It would certainly make me question someone's motives if they continued to have nude/semi-nude pics posted once we're a couple.

thank you!
finally!

I could care less if they have private pix or not. I don't use this as a sex site so it doesn't really matter to me.
Although, I've had some pleasant surprises!

i personally..could care less if the person has private pics on his profile..i mean..like someone said RJ is kinda picky about what they considder public one day....and really leaniant the next...a lot of ppl dont actually have any nude pictures in the private section...if they're there ya i will take a look..if there not..well then...w.e leaves more to the imagination

It doesn't make any difference to me. I'm more interested in the person and their personality.
I have friends on this Web site that have never shown me their private photos nor asked to see mine. But we connected because we saw something in each other that we liked - a sense of humor, a zest for life, some common interests, etc.
Sure, I look at the photos because I'm a guy with a high sex drive. But that's not the most important thing in my life.

I'd rather him not have pvt pictures if I'm interested in the guy, less chance that he's the type to sleep around.

But, that's not the first thing I look for. I look for a face picture lol. That's what I care about; the face, the smile, the piercing eyes, and the short unkept hair. Yeah, that works for me.