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...Were you sexually attracted to them at the time? Or did you have sex with them because it was the "right" thing to do?

At what point did you realize that having sex with women didn't really interest you? Was it when you accepted your homosexuality? Shortly after?

ewwwwww vageens!

It was like...
That was okay, but what's all the fuss
Now with Guys .... Whooeee!

I had a short affair with a woman some years after I came out. She was hot. It was fun. I'm still gay.

Only once did I have sex with a girl I wasn't sexually attracted to. I was mad at the guy I had been seeing.

I did it out of duty and I was drunk.

It was just the thing to do. And alcohol helped. Big time.

To those who had sex with a women...

Why?

If you were a southern fried football jock growing up in the 60's and 70's it was just... expected.

I convinced myself I was attracted, but I was never satisfied.

Then I did it with a guy - light bulbs, fireworks going off, bands playing, tada - OH, SO THAT"S WHAT ITS ABOUT.

As said before... yes she was a hottie and aroused me... better than the hand and blow jobs i got from other buds,

THEN, I fucked a guy... and like sucking and jerking, guys just do it better!... women can still get me aroused and charged up, but if a hot guy wanted to hook up its easy.... I'd go with him....

Well....I was already out to everyone, but still felt attraction to girls.

When one of my girl friends asked if I had even given girls a "chance", I said yes, but not sexually. So then she offered me to have sex with her. Because I was mutually attracted to her, I accepted and we did the nasty several times after that.

I noticed it just wasnt anything that there was nothing really there when we did it, I stopped. When I do it with guys that I am attracted to, however, the whole experience is a LOT different.

AMT87 saidTo those who had sex with a women...

Why?

because I liked it

I had an ongoing sexual affair with a married woman for many years. She and I were workout partners as well...and one of my best workout partners I ever had. She knew I was gay at the time. One night she was drunk, I was drunk, and we had sex. It was okay. Then it was a few months after the first time and we did it again. And kept it going for way too long. She was my best friend as well. But she could never see me happy with another man...although she was married and had two kids.

Anyways...it was nice. She told me I was very good at it, which I took as a compliment. But something was always lacking to me. It was the opportunity to flip.

I was and am still attracted to women. Sleeping with someone because its "the right thing to do" makes no sense. I would never have sex simply because its expected, that goes for males or females.

sexually attracted to women, have sex with women...why, because it feels good.

It's simply sex, a different kind of sex and feeling and sensation and no matter what anyone says when your dick is feeling good it'll let loose!!! Anyways, I'm not turned off by a woman sexually, however I am MUCH MORE strongly attracted to MEN!!!

i had sex with a girl.

twice infact.

the first time i was sober so i had no excuses.
second time totally corked.
i wasnt so much attracted to her physically, it was mostly an emotional and intellectual attraction.

she's now my best friend.

never again will it happen though.

Done pussy around 4000x more than boy butt. The jury is still out which one is better.

from age of 17 to 19 got laid at least 4 times a week with a girl, almost got married;

moved back home, tried sex with boys, from 19 to now strictly boys.


Last week had opportunity to score with a girl again, and even with the lubie dubie foreplay, dick said NO!

Since I got spat out of one. I've never wanted to go back!

I have always been attracted to GUYS! But being from a small town, where heterosexuality is expected, I tried it with a female(3 or 4 times). It really was just to make sure that heterosexuality was NOT for ME!!

Im with Chizzad, Im like 70/30 gay/bi but def prefer guys...but have been there and done that.

Why do I hear so often from persons who are sexually attracted to either sex that they resent "labels"?

If you're bi, you're bi. What's wrong with that?

whats wrong with that? nothing....unless you're on realjock.

check the threads, elvis...many of them don't believe we even exist.

I had a girlfriend once a long time ago. Sex was good but it's amazing with a guy.
I never had a double-orgasm with her!

tommysguns2000 saidwhats wrong with that? nothing....unless you're on realjock.

check the threads, elvis...many of them don't believe we even exist.

I'm kinda' new here. I was hoping anti-bi attitudes were minimal.

I can understand your frustration.

Timberoo said

AMT87 saidTo those who had sex with a women...

Why?

because I liked it

But why?

I enjoyed it. I had a girlfriend for two years and we fucked like rabbits. I enjoy fucking guys, but miss the occasional pussy and big boobs.

I was attracted to both. I dated and fooled around in my 20's. Then I met a woman I loved. We had great sex for numerous years, got married, got divorced and I dated again. Then I realized that the attraction had faded from gals and swung WAY over to guys. I came out, end of story. Sexuality can be on a continuum. Sometimes the world is not black and white. Labels and judgments are words that people use to separate each other.

At my fraternity (TDC) it was expected that all the guys in the house would show the hottest girls on campus a "good time". I did my share - but I always secretly wished any girl in my bed was one of the hot brothers or even one of my teammates. I guess I thought if I had enough good sex with women, I might "forget" about guys. I'm happy to say that didn't happen! Women are just a part of my past.

Some weeks I crave women, some weeks I crave men.
I dunno... maybe I'm a werefag. Is the moon out?

When I exclusively slept with women I was attracted to them. Now that was before I came to college. And that was all I ever knew. I was attracted to guys before college, but never had an experience with a guy. I suppose if I had the chance I would have done a few times, but kept it to myself. It's not like you can go talking about gay sex in high school. I had the option of liking girls and guys, so I didn't have that "right thing to do" problem. I knew what I felt, but I didn't know the term for it, so I didn't know what to tell people (if I planned to tell.)

Sex with women in college is boring. Maybe cuz I went to a party school. So many sorority sluts. They'll fuck but they're awful in bed. Can't take dick worth a damn. Unimaginative. ETC! Dudes are better. And because the msm population is much lower compared to the hetero female, it's easy to cycle through the bad-in-bed guys than the bed-in-bed girls (who never seem to stop coming). New guys coming to college are at least willing to learn.

I think it's more of the solid pleasure factor that drives me more towards men than women. I can find dudes online, not so much with girls. I don't have to wine & dine dudes to get them to put out either

Chizzad saidI was and am still attracted to women. Sleeping with someone because its "the right thing to do" makes no sense. I would never have sex simply because its expected, that goes for males or females.

Agreed.

i am sexually attracted to whoever i am sexually attracted to. whether they be male or female.

being unattached, i have regular female and male fb's that i mess around with. some days i feel like vag, some days i feel like dick. what's wrong with that?

why does everyone need labels? while some people are happy having their sexuality being labeled, others are not. to each his own.

and in addition, having sex with someone because its 'the right thing to do' is pretty messed up and i would never do that simply because its expected, out of respect for both yourself and the person you're messing with.

For me at least, it is possible to be attracted to beautiful people regardless of their gender.

I don't think the gay/bi/straight paradigm is very helpful... it's certainly not very liberating.

Maybe we are not as intrinsically attracted to certain kinds of people as we think. Or some of us are, but for others it is much more fluid.

Translation: I enjoyed it at the time and I think I was even in love.

I did it because the cool kids were doing it. :-) Also, living in the fraternity house provided a steady supply of girls and if you didn't fuck at least a few of them...well, you were suspect. I was definitely gay at that point, but wasn't ready for the house to know.

Some were hot and some were really, really, really not, but thanks to beer goggles they were somehow acceptable...and it actually HELPED your credibility when you slept with one of the badly unhot ones. Go figure.

I had sex with a couple of women before having sex with a guy! After that I had sex 2 times with a woman and both times were not the same and realized it was not my thing.

tommysguns2000 saidwhats wrong with that? nothing....unless you're on realjock.

check the threads, elvis...many of them don't believe we even exist.

I never understand why bi guys care so much whether or not gay men think they exist or not.

tommysguns2000 saidwhats wrong with that? nothing....unless you're on realjock.

check the threads, elvis...many of them don't believe we even exist.

bi guys don't exist.

they're like the tooth fairy and santa clause.

now the easter bunny, that's a different matter.

haha.

Pattison said

Timberoo said

AMT87 saidTo those who had sex with a women...

Why?

because I liked it

But why?

why not?

DEFINITELY A SWITCH-HITTER HERE, ENJOY PLAYING BOTH SIDES OF THE FENCE PRETTY MUCH EQUALLY THOUGH LATELY MY TRACK RECORD OF ENCOUNTERS HAS BEEN LIKE 75% DUDES AND 25% CHICKS. KINDA DEPENDS ON WHAT MOOD I'M IN. IT'S FUN TO PLAY ROUGH WITH DUDES BUT I CAN'T DO THAT AS MUCH WITH THE LADIES.

slickguystyle saidWhen I exclusively slept with women I was attracted to them. Now that was before I came to college. And that was all I ever knew. I was attracted to guys before college, but never had an experience with a guy. I suppose if I had the chance I would have done a few times, but kept it to myself. It's not like you can go talking about gay sex in high school. I had the option of liking girls and guys, so I didn't have that "right thing to do" problem. I knew what I felt, but I didn't know the term for it, so I didn't know what to tell people (if I planned to tell.)

Sex with women in college is boring. Maybe cuz I went to a party school. So many sorority sluts. They'll fuck but they're awful in bed. Can't take dick worth a damn. Unimaginative. ETC! Dudes are better. And because the msm population is much lower compared to the hetero female, it's easy to cycle through the bad-in-bed guys than the bed-in-bed girls (who never seem to stop coming). New guys coming to college are at least willing to learn.

I think it's more of the solid pleasure factor that drives me more towards men than women. I can find dudes online, not so much with girls. I don't have to wine & dine dudes to get them to put out either

Hey u,

Not all "dudes" are easy.

It's what I thought I was supposed to do, so I did it a lot. I thought it would make me straight and acceptable. The upside is, I have two great sons.