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Every day I've been on so far, they've loved to tell me all the particularities of their day, how they like their latte, how to they sleep on their pillow, what they like to buy, to eat and every single detail got me closer and closer to pulling out my hair.


Are gays more particular about their ways than hets? or just city Americans in general?

Third date this week where the guy was whining his latte had too much foam!!

(going crazy)

oceanboy11 saidEvery day I've been on so far, they've loved to tell me all the particularities of their day, how they like their latte, how to they sleep on their pillow, what they like to buy, to eat and every single detail got me closer and closer to pulling out my hair.


Are gays more particular about their ways than hets? or just city Americans in general?

Third date this week where the guy was whining his latte had too much foam!!

(going crazy)

You mean whining like above ^ ...

touche

Hey oceanboy11,

You got a chuckle out of me. I've had dates where the other person whined to the point of scary. You're not being very specific, though.

I could look at all the things your dates talk about and say it's just part of the getting to know you process.

I could take those same things and apply them with a dreadful complaining attitude and tone of voice that would resemble the proverbial nail on a blackboard.

Was it "Hmm, latte's not very foamy." in a laid back kind of way, or was it, "I HATE it when they always do this to my latte." accompanied by a nasal twang and an irritated expression.

What we talk about I seldom have an issue with, it's HOW we talk about it that makes one consider violent crime. heheh

oceanboy11 saidEvery day I've been on so far, they've loved to tell me all the particularities of their day, how they like their latte, how to they sleep on their pillow, what they like to buy, to eat and every single detail got me closer and closer to pulling out my hair.


Are gays more particular about their ways than hets? or just city Americans in general?

Third date this week where the guy was whining his latte had too much foam!!

(going crazy)

If they are complaining about such earth shattering problems as their latte's foam, then they don't have problems. Seriously in situations like that I tune out and just nod my head at appropriate times. I would rather be single then date guys that complain about petty problems.

yeah, well maybe I just lead a pretty basic life, where when shit happens it happens and I take care of it.

What I guess I'm really shocked is that there are people out there who find their lattes too foamy to be the worst thing in the world? That by itself makes me wonder if really that must be the worst thing in that person's life? Cause he's got it good then!

It just happened for the 3rd time in a row on recent dates, I have not noticed it before so much.

Another thing is feeling nervous and unsure. Alot of people take to griping
as a distraction, or in a mistaken belief that they can relax more and be themselves if they are comfortable complaining. lol

To be fair, there are people out there that do this on a date to test the other one's tolerance levels. Nothing like a little sneaky whining to see if you're the patient type.

meninlove said

Another thing is feeling nervous and unsure. Alot of people take to griping
as a distraction, or in a mistaken belief that they can relax more and be themselves if they are comfortable complaining. lol

To be fair, there are people out there that do this on a date to test the other one's tolerance levels. Nothing like a little sneaky whining to see if you're the patient type.

Good point, but when in doubt put your best foot forward, and if you have had a tough life, don't spill your guts the first date either. The guy might think you are a looney-tune!

Maybe you should stop dragging the queens to coffee shops.

I had a date with a guy who threw a fit in Starbucks because the bathroom had an "out of order" sign on it. The staff said they were swamped and hadn't had time to clean it. He started berating them all and made them give him the manager's number. I was very embarrassed....and never talked to him again.

I think he was trying to get a date with the Starbucks manager.

Hopefully they don't whine about big thighs and butts..
(sorry for the low volume!)
Promise of a Thin Me - Paula Abdul

Sedative saidI think he was trying to get a date with the Starbucks manager.

Hopefully the Starbucks manager had a better time than I did!