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In general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 - but then others could care less.

General feelings?

Sorry, but if someone turns down a hot 18 y/o... they're just stupid. ;)

rwking saidSorry, but if someone turns down a hot 18 y/o... they're just stupid. ;)

Haha aww, thanks bud.

If I was in my early 20's I probably would not turn you down. But even then I was looking for a LTR, so it depends if I thought we were compatible.

As for a maximum age? Generally speaking I think the age spread increases the older people get. It is hard for an 18 year old and a 30 year old to relate, but a 35 year old and a 47 year old is a lot easier.

I am in a relationship with a guy that 7 years older than me. In general this in no problem, since were are intellectually on par. But, the difference comes in life experience. I think the older the person you are dating is, the harder it is for you to catch up to him. I mean in life goals, financial situation etc. At least this is my observation of my own relationship as well as some of my close friends.

lXxAngelusxXl saidIn general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 - but then others could care less.

General feelings?

What do YOU feel? What would be the maximum age YOU would consider?

Why put an actual difference in years?

Perhaps it might be more about maturity level (of both parties)
or OTHER more important things.

I guess it depends on the guys involved. In general I prefer to keep it within a couple years either older or younger. But that doesn't mean I would discount someone on age alone. Ultimately if you hit it off, you hit it off - I say go with it.

In the immortal words of CHER (shut up, she knows her shit):

"My one advice to you kids is, just do it! You can always look back and go 'shit, I shouldn't have done that...'"

Im not sure if i would date an 18. Sorry, You cant get into a club yet and you havent really experienced life yet. I was somewhat of a wild child in college. I saw people in relationships cheat on their bf/gf. I would want my bf to have his fun and not feel like im holding him back....and we probably wouldnt have too much in common. That said I am mainly attracted to guys 35-45 years old myself.

lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

I just had to quote you after your original question.

lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

Nice. If guys don't want to date you, I'm not sure your chronological age is the problem.

lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

You're dating your Father?

lXxAngelusxXl saidIn general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 -

and then you say:

Well - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

First, you are just a very young man...and you are entitled to have big swings in emotion, desires, and expectations. That's why you are a big risk for anyone not in your age group. And that element of risk will preclude someone so young for them. Your desire for a person may be strong one day and be out the window the next.

My own view is that the older you get, the less an age difference becomes significant, if there is attraction. Just think about that....if you are attracted, and you get along with a another guy, that means the main components of a sexual relationship are there. Anyone over 30 y.o., generally, has emotionally matured and knows basically what they want sexually and emotionally. Thus, they're a good risk at being consistent and dependable.

But, second, you reveal your own lack of insight, seriously, no insult intended, though it sounds like an insult.

You're bemoaning the fact that older guys have a younger age cutoff....then you make an incredibly catty statement about guys over 40 y.o. Take a look at some of the profiles of guys over 40 here and see if they remind you of your father.

Geesh.

I don't think there should be a max or min; heck, who would enforce it anyway? It's to be figured out btwn the guys involved.

I prefer guys that are no more than 15 years younger than me. Does that mean that I have absolutely no interest in twenty something guys, no it doesn't. I am not very rigid when it comes to age. It all depends on the person. Lets face it, age is basically a meaningless number, you are only as old as you feel.

TallGWMvballer saidPerhaps it might be more about maturity level (of both parties)
or OTHER more important things.

i guess i agree with that ...

it's about maturity ...

me & my boyfriend are getting along very well maybe because we are both mature ...

or my boyfriend is more mature than me ... since he is 14 years older than me ... he he ...

bottomline is, we are both mature ... and we both know what we want ...

my boyfriend wants me ... and i want my boyfriend ...

well, what's important to me is ... my boyfriend loves me ... with all his heart ...

and i love him too ... with all my heart ...

it's very romantic ...

so sweet ...

more cat pictures

I mean dudes!

roadbikeRob saidLets face it, age is basically a meaningless number, you are only as old as you feel.

This is one of those popular cliches that I really hate.

You can be fit at an--ahem--advanced age, but you are still your age. You're not going to try to be and do what 20-somethings are amd do without coming off ridiculous. There is nothing wrong with being the age we are, and we don't have to put smily faces on it by saying "age is just a number." Oh, it's a number all right, the number of times we've spun around the sun since you first popped your head out of your mom.

And so what.

I've been in a relationship with someone who is 22 years older than I am for about a year now, we've known each other for 4 years and I'd have to say it's the best relationship I've ever had. It's not conventional in any means but I don't see age as being a deciding factor. I think differing ages can learn alot from each other, and still share commonalities. To each their own I say

sluglove saidI've been in a relationship with someone who is 22 years older than I am for about a year now, we've known each other for 4 years and I'd have to say it's the best relationship I've ever had. It's not conventional in any means but I don't see age as being a deciding factor. I think differing ages can learn alot from each other, and still share commonalities. To each their own I say

really? ... so, why is your relationship status "single"?

discuss ...

lXxAngelusxXl saidIn general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 - but then others could care less.

General feelings?

Different here because 18 is considered an adult.

Even that said I'd date an 18 year old but gay guys under 22/23 seems really fickle and to have no idea what they want in a relationship or life for that matter. I don't really serious or not, it dosen't matter as long as your not overly either or changing your mind every week.

I'm attracted to confident, self assured, guys who like to have fun and treat me right age is just a concept

As for upper age limit the same applies I'm not sure we would have much in common, but as long as I find them attractive physically I wouldn't be scared off by age.

Going out with them is different. I want someone that can hang out with my friends, empathize with my college/work life and be in the same income position.

I have two sons, 20 and 22 years of age, dating guys that young kind of creeps me out. I like guys around my own age and older, it's just my preference.

John43620 saidI have two sons, 20 and 22 years of age, dating guys that young kind of creeps me out. I like guys around my own age and older, it's just my preference.

My son is 25, John. I know just what you mean.

lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

See, you said it yourself!!! I have a father! and Im sure the mature guy thinks the same about 18 year olds!!!

Age is irrelevant to me! Love and Trust is what counts.

IMHO, age gaps are insignificant if the chemistry is there are both people respect each other.

Maturity gaps, on the other hand, are a totally different thing, and definitely not strongly tied to chronological age. I've met some seriously immature 40 year olds whose identities and self confidence are still in flux. And plenty of much younger guys with a great deal to offer. Ultimately, it's all about the individual.

Yeah i know what ya'll are saying, i've met some guys in their late thirties who would act as 18 year olds and well i don't know what to tell you dude, but i have been through the whole, you are too young thing. That is stupid. love has no age

I will not turn someone away based only on age.
It does not matter, it's just a number.
It all depends on what we can relate on.
If it is only sex, well you can guess what happens..

There is a 27 year age gap between my partner and I. Never think about it. I prefer older than myself.

In general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

Yes; of course people do generally feel that their should be a maximum age gap between two guys: for example, generally an 80 year old male would not likely date an 18 year old male but if that makes them happy more power to them. That's the crazy thing about generalizing: exceptions might occur.

I know some guys that won't even consider me because i'm 18 - but then others could care less.

General feelings?

Well, life is competition; since you asked, my general feelings are that as an 18 year old yourself you should compare and contrast the sense of competition you feel by dating people within a 4 year age radius (currently for you, either 14-18 or 18-22) then draw your own conclusions.

I hope I am not the only guy in RealJock date older guys? I dated few guys that are mid-30's and early 40's. Of course I dated few guys are around my age 27-30's. I am 26 years old and another 4 more years I'll be 30!!!

It's more of a case by case basis. The maximum (so far) for me has been about 10yrs.
It's more a matter of: do I like the guy? regardless of age, is he an adult? does he have the resources to do things like travel?

BostonVball said
"My one advice to you kids is, just do it! You can always look back and go 'shit, I shouldn't have done that...'"

no offense, but that's not really the best advice. :/

rwking saidSorry, but if someone turns down a hot 18 y/o... they're just stupid. ;)

Uhh yeah right - except for the fact that I'm old enough to be their Father... Issshhhh....

I never really discriminate on age, in fact I tend to be more attracted to older guys, but I also don't kid myself that that the further apart in age we are the more of a difference there will be in who we are, where we are, and what we want. So if I happen to get involved with someone older, I just recognize that the difference in age will be a challenge I'll have to either get over, or move on.

~Alex

Ten years ago I began an intimate relationship against my better judgement with a guy. He was 28 and I was 38. I figured it would fizzle out quickly and I would probably lose the frienship. I was prepared for the ultimate disappointment.
Well now he's 38 and I'm 48 and it's still fun and loving. The fizzle never came. I think it's because I'm very young at heart and he's always been mature for his age. I knew him for a long time before we ended up together.
I think age is a state of mind and not what's indicated on your drivers license.

lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

Seems you have found your answer all on your own. Some will count you out because of your age as will you do the same it seems. Guess you can't really complain if someone "older" turns you down simply because of your age.

My first lover was 13 years older than me. We got along fine. In fact, my brother (11 years older than me) and my first lover used to get along so well that I would feel little twinges of "jealousy" because they could relate on certain things that were clearly outside of my realm of life experience. I grew to enjoy these moments and to be grateful for them because here was my straight brother accepting the man who I loved in my life.

I have always been an "old soul", and so age has never been a consideration for me on either side of the spectrum (older or younger). I am, however, finding it more challenging to have intimate relationships with men much younger than me. It's the maturity factor. Now granted, I've also met men older than me who are less mature than an 18 year old. It really comes down to the individual and my interaction and compatibility with that indiviual.

I do tend to agree with the observation that others have made in your contradiction in your question and your statement about guys over 40. But you're still young, and I'm sure there was no intent to hurt others by your statement. You'll learn. Perhaps you may be blessed to one day have enough birthdays to look back on your life and remember your own words. I'm sure you'll smile.

Aloha and Be Well!

Alan

Age should not be an issue. The 22 YO could get hit by a bus tomorrow and the 40 YO lives for another 40 years. Enjoy what you may while you can and do not worry what other people think. Just my opinion. Carpe diem.

If you can't tell a difference in someone by the way they act, their goals in life, or any other reason then as long as you are compatible and can be happy then the question of age really holds no value.
My partner and I are 11.5 years apart and at what most people would consider the crucial age gap in that I am soon to be 33 and he just turned 21. We get along great and have a wide range of things we can do together and not kill one another lol. As any other couple of same age or huge age gaps we have our quarrels in which we both end up being right haha. The thing that I would see coming into play at certain ages is the living life to the fullest for the younger guy and overall goals in life. We do not seem to have that problem!

I meet my partner, just out of the pantry at 25. He was 38. I was concearned about the age differance but went ahead with getting involved. We have been together since for 24 years. Longer that any of our family meembers. It wasn't always easy, but what relationship is. He is 62 now and me 49. He thinks retirement, and I still want to party. It gets hard on both of us at times, more me than him. It's been worth it. We have had to open our relationship to satisfy my sex drive, while his has disolved, so with mutual and mature understanding and reasonning, all things are possible. I would never let age prevent a friendship, sex partner, or any other relationship from materializing. We are all people, and age is experiance, bless those who can share it, and those who can understand it.

rwking saidSorry, but if someone turns down a hot 18 y/o... they're just stupid. ;)

Unless of course the 18 year old is stupid. ;P

I dated a 20 year old when I was 16! I think it was actually legal according to state law too. =) But I generally didn't go more than 4 years over my age until I was 21, then the gap started to widen exponentially. Now I've been known to go up to 12 years older. I'll date under my age, but the farther below 23 they get, generally the harder it is for me to relate.

I know in general, people would respond" ah it just a number". However, in reality, age is important. It is very rare that one could fine a stable mate 5,10 or 14 years difference. In additiion, the older I get the less I am willilng to get involved with someone 10 years younger than myself. Last, it really depends on what you are looking for in a relationship.

Age difference means different things to different people. It all depends on the emotional maturity of both parties, the physical and intellectual chemistry, and the needs of both

I've always used the formula 1/2 your age + 7 is the youngest you can date. For example, half of 22 is 11. 11+7=18 So the youngest a 20 year old could date would be 18. For a 30 year old it would be 15+7=22. It always seems to make sense to me.

That being said, I think it's more important that you both be in the same life stage. College student (18-23), young professional (22-30), or professional (30+). It's much easier for a 23 year old to date a 29 year old than it is for a 21 year old to date a 25 year old… at least in my experience.

I've also been single for a very long time, so take this with a grain of salt

I am definitely living that question right now, I am 20 years old, and my partner is 42....it all started as a lie, he said he was 34 and he doesn't look over 40 at all, so I bilieved himm until he confessed aout his age...I was so upset because I never saw myself dating someone who I would consider very old for me but I love the guy and I know we are in different llife stages in life but we have great communication, we have discussed me going out clubbing, and starting to experience life but he knows the risks and all that therefore we just tell each other everything no matter how bad it is, and he has been of lots of help because of his experience and he has also learned from me, we've been together for 7 months which I never anticipated but here I am in love, as corny as it may sound!!

Danny

This is really a timely topic for me. I have been hit on by more guys in their early 20's than I have in all of the last 10 years. I am very honest and up front with them so they are sure of my age, but they don't seem to care. They are going after me which I am shocked by each time. My friends think it is really weird, but I am having a great time and the young guys aren't complaining. I have decided to let things happen and see where it goes. The funny thing is that when it comes to sex, I wear them out. I keep trying to convince them they should be able to go 3 or 4 times a night. lol

I guess it all just comes down to people and their personality. Live for today and don't let age stop you from living life they way you want.

You say you think dating someone over 40 is like dating your father? Well, dating an 18 yo is like dating my son! Being financially sound, they expect you to pay for everything, give them whatever they want, etc. Sorry-I base my relationships on the individual, and if we click gret, if not, oh well. I dont have a problem with 18 you's just be an adult, get a job, and enjoy life, you will be alot happier.

lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

Angelus - you obviously have rigid ideas about this. You just answered your own question.

What was your point in asking...??

I have a spread of about 15 years (21-36).

Does that mean that I will not date someone under 21? Almost definitely yes. I prefer "adults" (relative term at times)

Does that mean I will not date someone over 36? In most cases yes because of MY maturity level - I just do not feel as I have enough in common with someone that is 40 vs someone that is 35.

I guess the point is that you are always going to go with what you are comfortable with. If not then what's the point of living?

PHLmuscle8 said
Angelus - you obviously have rigid ideas about this. You just answered your own question.

What was your point in asking...??

He's does NOT have rigid ideas. He has a personal preference. And the point of him asking was to see what boundaries other people has so that he can compare and contrast.

jakebenson said[quote][cite]PHLmuscle8 said[/cite]
Angelus - you obviously have rigid ideas about this. You just answered your own question.

What was your point in asking...??

He's does NOT have rigid ideas. He has a personal preference. And the point of him asking was to see what boundaries other people has so that he can compare and contrast.[/quote]


JB, re-read his statement. Carefully this time.

PM8

PHLmuscle8 said

JB, re-read his statement. Carefully this time.

PM8

What am I looking for? He's still not a hypocrite. In one sentence he said some people don't accept him because of age, and then added that he doesn't care for some of those people (indicating that he won't go for them for their age).

FYI these realjock admins have the quote things all fucked up. It's near impossible to quote a quote. Lame.

JB, I said no such thing.

PHLmuscle8 saidJB, I said no such thing.

Ok my bad, you said he has rigid ideas and answered his own question. But he doesn't have rigid ideas and he didnt answer his own question.

dannysobe08 saidI am 20 years old, and my partner is 42.

I'm no one to judge someone else's relationship, but seeing that much of an age difference and the ages involved makes me wonder how a 42 year old relates to someone who's 20. I'm not 40 yet and I think the youngest I could seriously date would be about 25 or 26. Even that would be some work.

Is he around when you hang out with friends? That would seem a little awkward.

Well I'm 8 years older then my boyfriend. It has it's struggles sometimes, but we love eachother. He's doesn't always understand what it is I'm going through cuz he hasn't been through it and I sometimes forget that "he's 18" and I should just let him be 18. But in the end, we love eachother. I can say this... my godfather and his partner have been together for over 25 years and they are over 20 years apart so I guess it is what you make of it.

if a maximum age difference rule exists then i'd be guilty of breaking it. the bf is 52 and i'm 19

It is hard to generalize something like age differences between consenting adults. Really it is up to the two individuals... every situation is different.

However porn with a young guy and old guy is hot.
JUST KIDDING!

Sort of.

Well, I've dated guys as much as 10 years older than me and I'm cool with that...I mean as long as there is some sort of chemistry then why not give it a shot ya know...

This Age thing is getting boring so how many more posts on Age do we have to suffer?
Give it a Break?

I've dated men 18 years older than me, and I've been with men 25 years older than me. Age does not play a factor in looking for a partner. Maturity, tolerance, and an open mind is what attracts me most. My boyfriend and I are perfectly 10 years apart (same birthday), and I have found extremely limited problems due to age (mostly referencing smurfs or any major 80's cartoons). To be honest I find myself more attracted to older men simply because they have experienced and been through all the bullshit, and I don't care to have bullshit in my life. It works out for both of us in the end! My only fear is that when dating someone older, they might not be around as long as I am. But, we all have to take risks.
(btw, its our 1 year anniversary today).

Well, I've never dated a guy yet been waiting 10yrs. Any takers let me know I'm 28 and in Houston, Texas.

Gregg saidThere is a 27 year age gap between my partner and I. Never think about it. I prefer older than myself.

Gregg you must be mature for your age (emotionally that is), most guys in their late 40's would struggle relating to someone in their early 20's.

lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

That didn't come across right, but I am sure you did not mean to have it come across the way it did. And don't worry most guys in their 40's are not looking for someone young enough to be their son. I thought my partner of 10.5 years was too young when I first met him (there is a 10 year difference), but he was mature and responsible for his age. When I was in my late 30's and established I was always concerned about some young guy looking for an economic benefit from a relationship.

Half your age + 7 is a good guideline for how young you should go. Once it's legal. Use this nifty calculator:

http://lura.net/03/romance/

or this nifty graph:


But love conquers all anyways, so date who you damn well want to....

JBE60 saidI thought my partner of 10.5 years was too young when I first met him (there is a 10 year difference), but he was mature and responsible for his age.

I used to reassure myself that my boyfriend and I work together so well because he's mature and responsible for his age...he's 22 and I'm...not. Then I realized it works both ways: he's sorta mature and responsible for his age, and I'm kinda immature and irresponsible for mine. Voila!

I was in a relationship with a guy 30 (yup, thirty) years younger than I. We had more in common than I did with my chronological peers, including smokn hot sex. I was honored to be the object of his affection, and he prefers the company of older guys. For various reasons, it didn't work out but we're still very close friends. Age is a state of mind, and anyone who tries judges on that basis alone has a long way to go.

Yeah, it's interesting. My partner and I have been together for going on three years. He's 31, I'm 22; we met when I was a student in London and he was an editor, now I'm employed full-time in New York and he just finished a grad degree/works freelance. The roles have reversed.

What we have is ours together and we've lived on two continents together. I won't say it's always been easy but I think if you're truly compatible, things like an age difference recede in importance. When I look at him I don't think that he's older, just that he loves me and makes me happy.

There are definitely differences between us in terms of tastes and modes of living but so far we've found a way to make it work by just being open and honest about everything. I think stressing out about the things that are different about two people is the wrong way to look at things like age (or nationality, or race or whatever). Look at what you have in common. And if there's enough there, go for it.

And don't limit yourself by things that change-- financial status, age, body type, whatever. If you find the right person, all of these things will change no matter what. Enjoy life.

This has been an Interseting Blog on Age for sure!

I'm 55, have been for 4 days now...no matter!

I am only attracted to young boys/guys...
ppl my age...No way = No Attraction for me.

And your "Age Therory" ...

Hey works perfect for me man!

55/2+7=34....

Cool, C'mere boy!

But judging, discriminating is what most gay ppl do anyway...

So I just do my own thing, pay attn to no=one else, and appreciate those who do the same thing...

IOW, MYOB!

z_squared said

he's mature and responsible for his age...he's 22 and I'm...not.

You're 22²

Sedative said[quote][cite]z_squared said[/cite]

he's mature and responsible for his age...he's 22 and I'm...not.

You're 22² [/quote]

whippersnapper...I'd snap you square in the face with my whip, but I'd probably put out my back.

z_squared said

whippersnapper...I'd snap you square in the face with my whip, but I'd probably put out my back.

You have pension! I can sell you a really nice barely used wheelchair for 20% off!

Go back to bed, Sedative...lil kids need to sleep in.

z_squared saidGo back to bed, Sedative...lil kids need to sleep in.

It's 3AM. I'm waiting for Santa!

Ok... tough customer. 22% off!

fabionyc saidYeah, it's interesting. My partner and I have been together for going on three years. He's 31, I'm 22; we met when I was a student in London and he was an editor, now I'm employed full-time in New York and he just finished a grad degree/works freelance. The roles have reversed......

I agree with you. I really think that when love strucks, it does not matter age, shape or form!

Congrats on your relationship keep it strong!

Just finished reading the posts on this topic. I'd have to agree with the opinion, age isn't relevant for the most part, a relationship or just sex depends on the parties involved. Obviously the differences in the guys are whats going to determine if it works or not. I've dated guys who are 21 and dated guys who are 51, both good and bad. Depends on what "clicks" for ya....simple as that. With that being said I would say dating someone who isnt even legal yet would be a bad idea but for the obvious reasons! Just another opinion

lXxAngelusxXl saidIn general do people feel that there should be a maximum age gap between two guys?

How do you propose to enforce this maximum age gap?

Seriously, though, I think so long as all parties are legal and of age, who cares? Love is strange and complicated. Personally I think a 5 year spread is perfect, but that's because it worked for me. A friend msg'd me the other day to let me know that he (24) has started dating a guy who is 35. 11 year difference, but they have common interests and the age gap actually allows them to have more to talk about as they figure each other out.

Naturally, when you see a guy in his 40's with an 18 year old, you're going to think "sugar daddy" situation. But who cares? If they're happy (and presuming the 40 year old isn't mentally manipulating/abusing the 18 year old) then what's the harm?

lXxAngelusxXl saidWell - I wouldn't look at dating a 40 year old.
I've got one father already.

I think you just answered your own question... Next!

I wouldn't date an 18 year old, not to say some certainly are "HOT". But what would I seriously have in common with an 18 year old or him with me. 10 years gap up or down is "generally" a safe bet, but it always comes down to mutual interests and maturity and the latter has nothing to do with your age.

But be careful what you wish for XxAngelusxX, at 35 your over-the-hill in gay years. So though you're 18 now and already "have a one father" your half-way to being classified as one yourself. LOL

my boyfriend just trned 18 and I will be turning 27 this year, we dont have any problem with the age difference. Its one area we have never had any trouble in. up till now most of the guys i was with were around the same age or older, but this the one thats lasted the longest.

BOLD TEXT GOES HERECOLORED TEXT GOES HERE, WELL I HAVE TO SAY THAT ALL MY EXPERIENCES HAVE BEEN WITH OLDER MEN, IM 18 BUT I LIKE THOSE GUYS DOWN TO EARTH, N I THINK THEY ARE HOTTEST THAN YOUNGER BOYS... I LIKE SOME OF MY TEACHERS, EVEN WHEN I HAVE TO GO TO THE DOCTOR, SOME OF THEN TAKE MY ATTENTION BUT I M SO SHY AND I VE NEVER SAID ANYTHING TO THEM,, BUT IF THEY WOULD SAID ME A LITTLE CLUE,HEHE I D TAKE THE CHANCE... I DONT KNOW WHY THE TEENS DONT LOOK AT ME,,HEHEH , YEAHH ,, BUT THE OLDER MEN YES,, HEHE ,,,,,,TAKE CAREE...

Well, this coming from my little yet extensive experience, if both parties are mature, then really, age shouldn't be that big of an issue.

yalemarine saidHalf your age + 7 is a good guideline for how young you should go. Once it's legal. Use this nifty calculator:

http://lura.net/03/romance/

or this nifty graph:


But love conquers all anyways, so date who you damn well want to....

My response:
Thanks, when I'm 65 I'll have you set me up with a hot 105 yo. J/K guys.

On the case of dating older guys,
I agree with both, that age is just a number, and also that there is somewhat of a limit. The thing to keep in mind is that a difference of age does not cause problems in a relationship. That's merely a correlation. Maturity, common ground, and where you are in life is really what makes it SEEM that dating someone your age is plausible. I dated a 35 yo when I was 21 and it flopped becuase we had little in common. On that same note, I have very little patience with the lack of maturity of some people my age (that doesn't mean there aren't 65yos who need to still grow up.)

But what do i know? I'm just young, honest, cute, and single.

I have no problem with age per se, but my partner should have a certain level of maturity, while still being active mentally and physically and receptive to a certain amount of fun and excitement. It is also true that people of around the same age will be more likely to have similar life experiences and therefore share more in common. But otherwise, age isn't a big factor in my search for the right person.

OK fine...I'll chime in here.

Back in January, I told myself (and my friends...and my therapist) that I'd never date anyone under 30 again after last year's lessons learned.

Then I met Tim. When I asked him, "Hey dude, you wanna go biking sometime?" I never imagined it we would have clicked the way we did, and now I'm breaking my own rule.

The age thing has only ever come up twice. Once when I asked him if he knew how old I was (he thought I was 28-30), and once when he joked with his (lesbian) mom on the phone about how he is dating a guy older than the girl she is dating (his mom is dating a 29 year old).

JoeScorpio70 I felt the same way until I met my partner. We sort of scouted each other out for 15 months before any sparks flew. He was 26 (almost 27) and I was 37. Good thing I ignored my own advice, we are together now going on 10 1/2 years. To this day he will comment, "why didn't you come on to me earlier". I respond because I was HIV+, shy, and not sure about starting up with someone so much younger, despite his obvious physical attractions. Hopefully you and Tim will have the same good fortune as we have had.

I personally think it depends on the maturity of the younger partner and the ability of the older partner to compromise to a certain extent. There are some things that my partner likes to do occasionally, like going out drinking and dancing with his straight friends from High School, that I have no interest in. So I stay home and relax while he goes out. No big deal.

anyone who uses a formula or age range for dating is only relying on a rationalization that they created based on their preference. anyone who tries to push that formula or age range on someone else is silly.

we make our choices for preferences on a plethura of factors, physical age, mental age, maturity, physical development, and on and on.

there isn't a formula that fits everyone. :] it's simply more common that people date people close to their age when they are younger and that spread increases as they become older. when you're young you tend to live in a rather structure life - i.e. college campus, where the age spread is usually small. when you're older your chance encounter with another person has a far wider age spread.

neither is implicitly prohibited or mandated. date whomever you want to date but keep your paws out of the oven until the bread is done baking.

Well I think that ageism is terrible. I been having a magic relationship with a guy much younger than me...yeah sure it is only in cyberspace, but when he is in the UK and I'm in Australia...thank god 4 the net. Still after a year and many cyber encounters with him, he still get a kick out of me and I him.
So dont worry about the age thing, just enjoy.

I am all for younger/older relationships.
I will only date guys 20 years....older.

I will do ANYTHING to call someone else "Daddie".

some people say that age is just a number. really, it doesn't matter what the age difference is if you're into the guy (as long as you're not rocking the cradle). it's all about personal preference. i prefer guys who are less than 5 years older or younger than me.

For me, I personally have no interest in guys that are younger than me by more than about 2 years... even really hot ones. As for older, I am 26, and as long as the guy looks good, I think men can be extremely sexy into their early 50's.
But as for a relationship, I agree with earlier posts... we'd probably have to be a little closer in age to have some similar interests and stuff.

Don't I hate that age old question... "Do you have a type?" This subject fits here. Do I look for younger guys. No. Do I look for older? No. Color, Size, Hair Color? Get a life. Here is where its at for me. It starts with physical attraction. We are human, its a reality. But, anything lasting encompasses three basic categories, a physical, mental, and some type of spiritual or energy connection. Age does not have a place here. Maturity level does, age does not. The challenge for me? Finding guys in my age group that are in shape and I'm attracted to at all levels. So yes, they tend to be younger than me. My favorite saying is "What you look like attracts me, what you act like, keeps me.

I know what you mean. I'm 20, and I usually like guys that are older than me. I'm not too sure why, but something about the thought of an older guy.... Maybe it's because I look so young. To some guys, it's cool. To others, it's a turn off. But no. I don't think age really matters.

This should be open to personal preferences. I date guys around my own age or older. It may be because I have two sons in their early twenties and the idea of dating guys their age really creeps me out.
Men I know who do not have sons prefer younger guys.

i've tended to date older guys than myself- my peers just can't seem to keep up- i've always been mature for my age (old soul) and i want things out of life that people don't usually want till they're older. 5-10 years older than myself is usually ideal. i have a rule-of-thumb that i would probably be uncomfortable dating someone old enough to be my father though. as far as younger goes? i'm not going to say i wouldn't do it, but there would be obstacles: maturity level being one- most younger guys- hell, most of my peers- have some maturing to do; they don't seem to want real, lasting relationships, even when they say they do; they don't usually have the experience to know how to reciprocate and participate fully in a relationship to keep it strong and balanced; they still have a lot to learn about themselves- there are usually emotional issues and demons to sort out, and finally, there's just a lot that one learns in the eye-opening college years that one just has to go through. the point that the age gap between older men can be comfortably greater than with younger is true in my opinion: when i think back to myself 3 years ago after graduating high school..... i thought i had it all figured out and was ready to be a fully functional adult.... but a few years in college have made me grow and learn so much more about myself and the world. i think it'd be safe to say that i would struggle with the thought of dating someone under 20. and the older i get, i think i'll want my boyfriend to be of legal drinking age, at minimum. not saying that's carved in stone- there are exceptions to every rule- but as a general rule of thumb..

I like younger looking guys. Smooth fresh looking little gymnasts are number one. Great to spoon those little guys. Great to fuck and be fucked by them is hot. Smooth fresh looking slim swimmers builds to. fuck it. I don't care what your number is just look fresh and young.

I have found that once your over 50, you are over looked by the gay community.. Most want younger.. and yes I would like younger, which seems to be a I Wish List.. Anyway guys, take what you can get while your young..cause time stops for no man..

Depends on what they are looking for. I normally go for older guys, as they seem to have their shit together and know what they want.

I have same topic as yours ! lol

AND I'm 18, too.

http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/264600/

lol well to me. age doesn't matter, but I guess older people think we are too young to be their bf.. lol or (whatever lol )

I think I know what they worry about but I guess it will be OK if they really like each other.. lol