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Hey guys, I am just curious. You guys think that c2c with another stud means that you are cheatin on your bf? Why do some ppl make such a fuss about it? Aren't we all horny from time to time (when your bf is not) and isn't cam the least harmful option (vs. meeting other men in real life, which is NOT an option)?

I think it should be ok. But what do think about it? I hope I am not causing a moral disuccion over this.

P.S.:
Too late, I already did.

It's not cheating really unless there are actual body fluids exchanged
Otherwise it's just interactive porn
which is why it's a poor second to actually meeting a guy

yeah might be a poor second. but I like your idea of calling it "interactive porn". that's exactly it! If I want more, there is still my guy around.

To me it borders on cheating because it could lead to something more, espeically if the guy is in the same city. A porn video is different, it is entertainment, you don't know the "actors" and you will never meet them.

Anytime an RJ guy comes on the IM and asks if I have a webcam or if I am horny and want some action, I shut him off.

"Anytime an RJ guy comes on the IM and asks if I have a webcam or if I am horny and want some action, I shut him off."


I do that, too. So don't worry, man. I am not that primitive :-)

As it seems, I am the only one, who is not "over-moralizing" the use of a cam. :-(

Ah well, I better go and do me some mantra then (no, not tantra!).

If your boyfriend doesn't considering it cheating. If my boyfriend wanted to jack off with c2c then, that's fine but if he wanted to talk or meet up with guys, then that's a different story.

Ya, it is just interactive porn.

But if you sit down and have a chat with your boyfriend about it and you two agree that it is cheating, then it is cheating. Every couple is different and the person you should ask isn't a forum full of strangers but your boyfriend.

If he's hot, then it's cheating.

If he's not hot, then it's just charity.

Timberoo saidIf he's hot, then it's cheating.

If he's not hot, then it's just charity.

Amen and ditto XD

In my opinion, it's cheating if you're Christian--"adultery in the heart a la Jimmy Carter.

If you're not Christian, you'll have to check the agreement you made with your significant other.

That's my two cents.

I used to c2c a good amount. My bf doesnt really like it so I decided to put it down for awhile. Its for the best. Even when I tried to behave myself I ended up doing naughty things

Honest answer - if you answer yes to any of these questions, then it's cheating:

- Are you hiding it from your boyfriend?
- Would he be upset if he knew?
- Would you be upset if you found out he was doing it?

CarlosGringo saidIn my opinion, it's cheating if you're Christian--"adultery in the heart a la Jimmy Carter.

If you're not Christian, you'll have to check the agreement you made with your significant other.

That's my two cents.

First of all I want to say that I agree with Timberoo. If you're hiding it cause you know he's gonna be upset...then you should consider not doing it.

But if you are a christian, or athiest, or have any other beliefs, it doesn't change the answer. According to most christians, being gay is a sin...so cheating on your gay boyfriend wouldn't make sense. Sexual morals are a personal judgement of how to live ones personal life, and should not be conformed by a religion.

So you want to chat sometime?

kiddin' :-) !!!

Another way of looking at it is as something that actually sustains long distance relationships.

I don't know about you guys, but I have an amazing libido and I look at webcamming as a 'safe' and 'ethical' option in most cases. I know there would be some of you that might beg to differ.

I webcammed my way through my relationship with my ex (with his knowledge) and I don't think either of us had a problem with it.

I agree with Janwolf - if you can see women talking about really hot guys with each other on the bus or while at lunch or on the phone while they also compare who they've been dating, don't you think it's about time that guys be given the same freedom?

Cam to cam - ok, so it's a better version of a paid for sex phone line... ...if it means you can be seen being aroused and someone decides that they're suddenly in the mood for something like making love with you, I don't think you should discourage it...

...in fact, if they do raise a fuss, you could very lovingly say "I'd like you to say you find me sexy and attractive instead of 'you're cheating on me', could you try saying that instead?".

Cheers!

00_beachballs - I refuse to be categorized as a cheater, you have to have someone obey the rules to have someone cheat, and you categorizing everyone as a cheater means you didn't obey the rules; innocence before guilt.

Peace.