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May 16, 2008 4:08 AM GMT
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There's something that I don't quite understand, and maybe someone out there can help me.

I'm really not trying to be obnoxious or stuck up or self-centered, but I don't understand why it is that young guys are always checking me out. They cruise me on the street (and I mean they CRUISE me)and they are the ones who are always looking at my profile. My boyfriend is 38, 15 years younger than me. Guys are always telling me that I have "the look", which I just don't get. I had a young guy in his 20s look straight into my eyes and give me a really big grin as I walked by in the park the other day. He was gorgeous. I'm nothnig special, quite unremarkable. You really can't judge from pictures of me, because I do NOT photograph well.

Don't get me wrong -- I'm not knocking it, since I really like younger guys with smooth skin, but I find guys closer to my own age more appealing, sexually.

Not looking for stroking of the ego, here, just a better understanding.
Caslon7000 Posts: 7462
May 16, 2008 4:35 AM GMT
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Caslon7000 Posts: 7462
May 16, 2008 4:38 AM GMT
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May 16, 2008 4:44 AM GMT
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Cas, ol' buddy, you're such a teaser! LOL
TD22 Posts: 863
May 16, 2008 1:18 PM GMT
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Maybe they can see your "AURA"

Or maybe those tight pants you wear?

Or maybe they just like older and fit a lorra lorrra young ones do?
McGay Posts: 2719
May 16, 2008 1:59 PM GMT
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"I don't understand why it is that young guys are always checking me out"

Beats the hell outta me.
RBY71 Posts: 2037
May 16, 2008 2:12 PM GMT
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I always feel like ...................................................somebody's watching me.
Maverick75 Posts: 208
May 16, 2008 3:07 PM GMT
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sundown55 saidThere's something that I don't quite understand, and maybe someone out there can help me.


Not looking for stroking of the ego, here, just a better understanding.


Well, you are online and you did post a picture.
Sean_85 Posts: 708
May 16, 2008 9:10 PM GMT
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And this is a problem because?

Be flattered.
Soufian Posts: 260
May 16, 2008 9:40 PM GMT
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Don't hate me cus i'm brutally honest ... but if it helps i think you're really really really not hot So yeah, cheer up.
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May 16, 2008 9:51 PM GMT
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Soufian saidDon't hate me cus i'm brutally honest ... but if it helps i think you're fuck ugly So yeah, cheer up.


Okay, on a scale of 1 to 10, that was completely unnecessary.
redheadguy Posts: 2067
May 16, 2008 9:57 PM GMT
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oh
EricPrado Posts: 60
May 16, 2008 9:59 PM GMT
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Soufian saidDon't hate me cus i'm brutally honest ... but if it helps i think you're fuck ugly So yeah, cheer up.




you're waaay fucking uglier too :]
BostonVball Posts: 284
May 16, 2008 10:01 PM GMT
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As a late 20-something, I wish I could give you the clarity you seek... Maybe there's something chronically in your nose?
msw1 Posts: 224
May 16, 2008 10:10 PM GMT
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Maybe you are really hot in Seattle, I have not been, so I cannot speak for the scene there. Whats hot there may not be considered as hot in LA, or NY, but hey, if you are the hot one there, then have fun with it.
Em3ns Posts: 48
May 16, 2008 10:23 PM GMT
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sundown55 saidNot looking for stroking of the ego, here, just a better understanding.


In my opinion that is exactly what you are looking for. Your post is littered with defense mechanisms in order reinforce the notion that a plethora of young men are irresistibly attracted to you.

I personally do not find you attractive. I would not go so far as to insult you or disrespect you, but nonetheless you are not someone I would consider attractive.

If I were in your situation I would focus my attention on my significant other, and not the superficial meandering gazes of random men.
Wiseass1976 Posts: 45
May 16, 2008 10:57 PM GMT
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I know someone who will think twice before posting another solicitation for compliments.
polobutt Posts: 744
May 16, 2008 11:03 PM GMT
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I think that it's flattering when guys check me out... regardless of their age.
jsttennis77 Posts: 736
May 16, 2008 11:18 PM GMT
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LMAO!!! and I thought the dude from yesterday who posted the comment that the gay guys in SF were ugly was a full on fucktard but I think he may have met his kindred spirit with this OP. hahahaha. No offense, but come on dude!

So all the youngsters in your area "cruise" you? Are you sure they aren't just starring at you wondering who that ol pervert is starring back at them? LMAO

Well either way thanks for the laugh! My heart bleeds for ya over this terrible issue you are facing you twink magnet hahahahaha! You did give me a great laugh so for that thank you.
jsttennis77 Posts: 736
May 16, 2008 11:22 PM GMT
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caslon said


I swear this was exactly me when I first read the original posters complaint LMAO. I'm still laughing.
Global_Citize... Posts: 806
May 16, 2008 11:33 PM GMT
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Forgive me if I'm a bit skeptical, and also think this kind of post is a tad bit insufferable.

Guys are always telling me that I have "the look"

Have I already mentioned that I'm skeptical?
kerkyon Posts: 5
May 16, 2008 11:34 PM GMT
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Mikesw saidMaybe you are really hot in Seattle, I have not been, so I cannot speak for the scene there. Whats hot there may not be considered as hot in LA, or NY, but hey, if you are the hot one there, then have fun with it.

Mike, I'm sure you're cute in both L.A. and NYC. ;-) Sorry, sundown55 -- you brought this on yourself!
lilTanker Posts: 809
May 16, 2008 11:38 PM GMT
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Oh you insufferable boob, Get over your self!

I get cruised all the time and hit on, by women!!!!

You don't see me coming here complaining about it now do ya?? huh
obscenewish Posts: 3261
May 16, 2008 11:47 PM GMT
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Oh stop. I don't know if Sundown had some hidden or unconscious agenda in his post, but if you're gonna start eviscerating people for posting threads that are obviously invitations to compliment them, this place will turn into a slaughterhouse.

I wonder why this particular thread drew scorn while so MANY don't. (I'm especially thinking of the guys who post umpteen times in those "say-something-nice-about-the-person-above-you" threads.)

But to answer your question, Sundown: Everyone here is younger than us, so if anyone looks at all, of course he's going to be younger. If anyone older looks, he's a zombie come back from the dead. (No offense to the Munching One.)
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May 16, 2008 11:52 PM GMT
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Cheese and rice, some of you guys can be brutal.

Sundown, they are probably staring at you because you are staring at them. I think thats how it works with most people - If someone happens to be staring at me, I check them out too. It's also likely that you have a certain look that some of them find attractive. Who knows?

Either way, I'm sure it makes life much more interesting for you.

Tony21 Posts: 27
May 16, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
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c'est la vie
photonut Posts: 27
May 17, 2008 12:03 AM GMT
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I have been hit on by younger men too, MUCH younger guys who think I am HOT, and I like it. I don't question it. There is much I do not understand in the gay world, other than I will try to take what comes my way, if I am interested in return, and go with the flow of it.
SurrealLife Posts: 3721
May 17, 2008 12:16 AM GMT
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All part of life's rich pageant!
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May 17, 2008 12:24 AM GMT
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caslon said


Holy shit...I've haven't stopped laughing for 10 mintues!!!
HndsmKansan Posts: 2947
May 17, 2008 12:27 AM GMT
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Well let me start off by saying I am going to try to do what I do on many threads and that is to be helpful to the original poster and give some food for thought at the same time.

I think some of the input here is a bit unfortunate (meaning some of the disparaging commentary), but Sundown, your original question lends itself to some
discussion such as this.

First, if you do get attention like this, enjoy it in the right way and go about your business. Half the time I don't know what goes on around me (especially when I'm in a store shopping) so I'm not that attuned.


If at 6'1" and 245, you are enjoying attention such as you mention, I would suggest it is a little irregular.
I myself tend to look at very fit men (regardless of age) who are not only fit, but are notable for their
friendly, outgoing personalities and lack of self
centered behavior.

Good luck to you and best wishes for accepting this attention in the right kind of way.
ASH557 Posts: 74
May 17, 2008 12:33 AM GMT
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To add to what that Handsom Kansan has to say:

I often visit his profile to check him out.

x
Caslon7000 Posts: 7462
May 17, 2008 12:37 AM GMT
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...hmmmmm...separated at birth? ....
irishboxers Posts: 327
May 17, 2008 12:43 AM GMT
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I soooo badly want to throw some gasoline on this bonfire, but I just can't bring myself to do it.

Instead, I'll hang back with my popcorn and watch.
CuriousJockAZ Posts: 2009
May 17, 2008 1:15 AM GMT
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Just when ya think you've heard it all on RealJock...
jsttennis77 Posts: 736
May 17, 2008 1:20 AM GMT
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CuriousJockAZ saidJust when ya think you've heard it all on RealJock...
Wiseass1976 Posts: 45
May 17, 2008 1:55 AM GMT
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Let this be a cautionary tale to anyone who was going to post "Everyone tells me my dick is too big"
mcwclewis Posts: 361
May 17, 2008 2:01 AM GMT
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Wow. Every time someone posts a reflective observation or a simple question they get flamed by flock of rabid vultures.

If you ask me, anyone who feels the need to attack someone for a question like that has some issues themselves.

The defense mechanisms are completely natural in an environment like this, increasingly hostile and unaccepting of even the slightest hint of self-appreciation, no matter how removed. I think everyone is guilty of a little narcissism... and flaming someone for bringing up that they were found attractive by someone proves that. A little humility might help out, kids.
Luckydog76 Posts: 827
May 17, 2008 3:07 AM GMT
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Wiseass1976 saidI know someone who will think twice before posting another solicitation for compliments.

Bam. Nailed it.
Caslon7000 Posts: 7462
May 17, 2008 3:43 AM GMT
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mcwclewis saidWow. Every time someone posts a reflective observation or a simple question they get flamed by flock of rabid vultures.




...and the operable word here is "simple."
Lazz Posts: 215
May 17, 2008 4:29 AM GMT
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WOW!! You ppl are merciless.

Sundown55::head rub:: Don't let all this negativity get to you.
Hunter9 Posts: 234
May 17, 2008 5:36 AM GMT
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if i saw you in the bar, you'd barely last a second as i scan the crowd.

so, ya know, different strokes for different folks
RBY71 Posts: 2037
May 17, 2008 5:40 AM GMT
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Okay, I was just trying to be silly with the Rockwell video I posted. Y'all are just being unnecessarily viscous now.
redheadguy Posts: 2067
May 17, 2008 5:40 AM GMT
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Young people can be so cruel.
Sean_85 Posts: 708
May 17, 2008 6:01 AM GMT
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This thread is like the defintion of what its like to have your ass handed to you.

Because i'm a nice person i'll send a cyber hug your way because you prolly feel like a total douche. And just a note for next time. Don't go fishing for a compliment. Because its gross and tacky. xoxo
SamerPhxAZ Posts: 1414
May 17, 2008 6:13 AM GMT
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Sundown55... Are you trying to find some excuse or something so that more younger guys can look in your profile?

Don't worry I am not going to look at your profile...
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May 17, 2008 6:29 AM GMT
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Hmm well maby you do, I didint look at your profile but. maby its maturity they are attracted to. people are odd creatures.
Hunter9 Posts: 234
May 17, 2008 7:00 AM GMT
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im strangely addicted to this thread.

what makes a person think people aren't going to react so adversely to arrogance?... especially when he's not even hot!!!
Mars Posts: 115
May 17, 2008 7:05 AM GMT
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Phx Ariz08"Sundown55... Are you trying to find some excuse or something so that more younger guys can look in your profile?

Don't worry I am not going to look at your profile..."


Ok....I have to admit that I just had to look because I just HAD to know.... I am still confused.

Sean_85, I Think I have to agree with you on this one.
CuriousJockAZ Posts: 2009
May 17, 2008 7:08 AM GMT
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Hunter9 saidim strangely addicted to this thread.

what makes a person think people aren't going to react so adversely to arrogance?... especially when he's not even hot!!!



I know what you mean, I can't tear myself away...can hardly wait to see who's goin' down on Sundown next.

Carry on :-)
NickoftheNort... Posts: 804
May 17, 2008 7:40 AM GMT
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As OW pointed out, the members of the RJ community are largely younger than you. It's also worth keeping in mind that having your profile viewed on RJ can mean anything from having someone deeply inspecting every word and photograph to someone accidentally clicking onto it when trying to click on someone else.

As for in-person: people have all kinds of likes and dislikes and you may have qualities that younger guys in your area enjoy. The looks you get can (going with a non-second-guessing attitude) indicate an interest, perhaps a la a daddy-son interest or just a general interest in you.

Now, as to the idiot replies that have followed:

/rant
Threads like these remind me of the vacuousness and vanity of the RJ "community" and of the pervasive invective displays it adores.

With the one hand there will spring forth litanies of seeking the wholesome and non-superficial while the other hand will set forth (*clearly* non-superficial) physical aesthetic standards.

At least Chuckystud was continuously up-front with his bullshit.
/rant off
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May 17, 2008 7:43 AM GMT
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NickoftheNorth saidAs OW pointed out, the members of the RJ community are largely younger than you. It's also worth keeping in mind that having your profile viewed on RJ can mean anything from having someone deeply inspecting every word and photograph to someone accidentally clicking onto it when trying to click on someone else.

As for in-person: people have all kinds of likes and dislikes and you may have qualities that younger guys in your area enjoy. The looks you get can (going with a non-second-guessing attitude) indicate an interest, perhaps a la a daddy-son interest or just a general interest in you.

Now, as to the idiot replies that have followed:

/rant
Threads like these remind me of the vacuousness and vanity of the RJ "community" and of the pervasive invective displays it adores.

With the one hand there will spring forth litanies of seeking the wholesome and non-superficial while the other hand will set forth (*clearly* non-superficial) physical aesthetic standards.

At least Chuckystud was continuously up-front with his bullshit.
/rant off


::Flys over my head::. I sure you were right.
Sedative Posts: 5127
May 17, 2008 8:14 AM GMT
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Yow. Everybody back off, I got a tranq gun!

Lord, can I say T-Veronica Vicious?... In that case, I wanna be Alice and have sex with Carlos Olivera and then slice and dice all ya zombie hordes, all ya Red Queens are just jealous so don't go meshing me with that lazor!
ActiveAndFit Posts: 2466
May 17, 2008 8:35 AM GMT
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sundown55 saidNot looking for stroking of the ego, here, just a better understanding.
I have noticed this more as I have gotten older. Younger cute guys pursuing me, especially when I had the goatee. I suspect some older guys might represent stability or security to younger guys. Maybe also just the air of confidence or not caring what other people think -- I have become like that as I have matured. Also there are some young guys that just like older guys for what ever reason like a fetish.

I think what Doc obscene is saying is a part of it too.

BTW, I am not talking about just staring, but more like pursuing or falling in love with me. It definitely happens more often with the facial hair too (people say it makes me look more mature). When I was in my 30's, I just did not get 18-25 y/o guys hitting on me like that.
Soufian Posts: 260
May 17, 2008 10:05 AM GMT
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EricPrado said[quote][cite]Soufian said[/cite]Don't hate me cus i'm brutally honest ... but if it helps i think you're fuck ugly So yeah, cheer up.




you're waaay fucking uglier too :][/quote]


That was no wear near as clever as mine, try again buttboy.


And hey, i said what McGay said ... without the decoration.


Plus, come one now, this thread was a joke and in a strange way degrading (even if not ment so) to us younger people. I was just trying to put him out of his misery once and for all
rusty_dk Posts: 22
May 17, 2008 10:11 AM GMT
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Soufian saidDon't hate me cus i'm brutally honest ... but if it helps i think you're fuck ugly So yeah, cheer up.


i agree...completely not needed...
Soufian Posts: 260
May 17, 2008 10:15 AM GMT
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Okay, look what i can do with the interweb, i can manipulate it. Watch me.


Look at it, no profanity ... i'm still saying the same but without the impact. Is this REAL JOCK or is this Pussyville.
HndsmKansan Posts: 2947
May 17, 2008 1:07 PM GMT
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I reread this thread and again, I think the responses are a little unfortunate.

If Sundown had predicated his thread on "How different strokes (for looks) for different folks", meaning how confusing it can be at times to have some younger gay men find you attractive and others...no. Or even, "What is the "look" today...
I just think the original post wasn't written in a way to invite supportive comments, but could be dissected by some readers in ways that are critical.

One thing that I don't remember being mentioned here is Sundown titled his thread, "...checking me out online", but the thread was really about being checked out in person. We need clarification here.

Realjock is meant as a supportive site. Nothing wrong with being critical of the ideas of a poster, I just find this thread to be a little uncomfortable.
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May 17, 2008 1:11 PM GMT
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Hunter9 saidif i saw you in the bar, you'd barely last a second as i scan the crowd.


You, on the other hand, stop being attractive the moment you open your mouth and all your misogyny comes pouring out.
CuriousJockAZ Posts: 2009
May 17, 2008 3:04 PM GMT
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HndsmKansan saidI reread this thread and again, I think the responses are a little unfortunate.

If Sundown had predicated his thread on "How different strokes (for looks) for different folks", meaning how confusing it can be at times to have some younger gay men find you attractive and others...no. Or even, "What is the "look" today...
I just think the original post wasn't written in a way to invite supportive comments, but could be dissected by some readers in ways that are critical.

One thing that I don't remember being mentioned here is Sundown titled his thread, "...checking me out online", but the thread was really about being checked out in person. We need clarification here.

Realjock is meant as a supportive site. Nothing wrong with being critical of the ideas of a poster, I just find this thread to be a little uncomfortable.




I agree, even though this thread has been somewhat amusing at times, it's also gotten a tad mean-spirited. Perhaps it's time for a GROUP HUG for SUNDOWN.
Caslon7000 Posts: 7462
May 17, 2008 3:06 PM GMT
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If you can't take the answers, dont ask the question.

IF THIS THREAD IS SERIOUS:

I am totally baffled what answer is expected, when we are told the pic isn't a true representation of him.

If the pic doesnt convey his true appearance, what can we say? If we go by the pic, they aren't cruising him for his classic good looks.

I am going to go with the camera doesn't lie THAT much.

You asked for help. Here is mine. Personally, I don't think anybody is cruising you. I think you have some serious personal esteem issues that are bordering on delusional. I suggest getting professional counselling. Seriously.
Hunter9 Posts: 234
May 17, 2008 3:11 PM GMT
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jprichva said[quote][cite]Hunter9 said[/cite]if i saw you in the bar, you'd barely last a second as i scan the crowd.


You, on the other hand, stop being attractive the moment you open your mouth and all your misogyny comes pouring out.[/quote]

But this thread is about arrogance, not misogyny, right?

and even if i "stop being attractive (from my *misogyny*)" all I have to do is not open my mouth, whereas Sundown is shit outta luck no matter which way he spins it.
CuriousJockAZ Posts: 2009
May 17, 2008 3:14 PM GMT
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Hunter9 said[quote][cite]jprichva said[/cite][quote][cite]Hunter9 said[/cite]if i saw you in the bar, you'd barely last a second as i scan the crowd.


You, on the other hand, stop being attractive the moment you open your mouth and all your misogyny comes pouring out.[/quote]

But this thread is about arrogance, not misogyny, right?

and even if i "stop being attractive (from my *misogyny*)" all I have to do is not open my mouth, whereas Sundown is shit outta luck no matter which way he spins it.[/quote]






D-D-Damn! This is a tough crowd!
Jdunn1973 Posts: 318
May 17, 2008 3:17 PM GMT
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You make a good point Rob.
The younger guys who find nothing but disdain for older unattractive men are just laying the brick work for the house they will eventually live in. You wonder why gay culture seems so f*cked up and empty, you are reading it and playing your role.

I love what Nick said too, about lamenting about the overabundance of superficial guys on the scene , yet you play the vapid cliche just as easily as the people you criticize. It makes me lose my mind, seriously. The reality you are living in and complaining about is largely your own construct. Loving your role as a spoke in the wheel that drives the machine you hate. Better the devil you know I suppose.


I would say something constructive to the OP, however, it would be difficult for someone not doing the cruising to explain why they would cruise you.
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CuriousJockAZ Posts: 2009
May 17, 2008 3:25 PM GMT
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The bottom-line is that the old cliches "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", "Different strokes for different folks", or "One man's passion, is another man's poison" all hold true. No one person can say what is "attractive" and what isn't because it's all subjective.
peterstrong Posts: 304
May 17, 2008 3:42 PM GMT
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sundown55 wrote 'guys checking me out online'


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Sean_85 Posts: 708
May 17, 2008 3:53 PM GMT
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Soufian said
Is this REAL JOCK or is this Pussyville.


The better question to answer this pussyville question would be... Would you say that to his face or is it easy to be a bitch because you have a computer screen and god knows how many miles between the both of you?

Because a Real Jock would say that to his face... so ya. :S
jsttennis77 Posts: 736
May 17, 2008 4:21 PM GMT
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Hmm... I think it's real valiant that there are those who feel a need to protect or defend the OP when they see some responding in what might be called a harsh manner, but I think in this case you've been played a bit.

Look real close at the entire presentation. Do you really believe a 50 plus year old man does not understand the law of attraction? Do you really believe he is a complete simpleton? He hasn't stepped in once to clarify anything. He's too shy to email all these young guys clicking on his profile checking him out to say hello and find out why they've been clicking on his profile but he is bold enough to throw it out there for thousands to read his confusion over it? Come on!!

I personally thought it was all a joke to see what type of responses he would get just to generate a general conversation. Some of what he presents is complete nonsense. Like the comment about some people saying he has "the look" ( which he may for some ) but then masks those comments with humble statements like he personally defines himself unremarkable. Quickly adding he doesn't take a good picture so don't go by that. Comments like that will generate negativity because it pushes the bullshit factor. Not because someone may find him unappealing physically but because they can see through the shit. I have to admit in this case even my neighbors cat can smell this one.

Did anyone take the time to read his profile? Not only does he mention his current BF is 15 years younger than him in this post but he also mentions his BF is 15 years younger in his profile. Do you get it? Are you missing the general theme here? He's getting off on the whole age thing and wanting to tell us all about it but masking it by saying why oh why am I such a magnet for the young ones?

His example of being REALLY CRUISED is so stupid you can't help but think he's full of shit. Not because it's impossible to believe he would be cruised in general but it's his definition of being REALLY CRUISED with a simple smile or someone starring at him. Apparently he has no idea what REALLY BEING CRUISED is. By the way, did you know he has a BF 15 years younger than him? Repeat that a few more times because thats really all your suppose to get out of that whole nonsense.

Should we give him the benefit of the doubt that he may be simple minded and not know how to formulate a post and then defend him? put it altogether and then answer that yourself.

He's got a BF 15 years younger, just can't seem to understand why someone younger than him would be attracted to him, throws in some compliments and stares he gets from someone younger, swears he himself doesn't see anything special in himself ( but don't dare tell him what you personally think of his appearance cause thats wrong and cruel. Besides the pictures don't do him justice he has the look) but then ends the whole thing by saying he's more sexually attracted to someone around his age. Nice insult to the boyfriend who just happens to be 15 years younger.

I'm thinking this guy needs no one to defend his slop or waist the energy in feeling bad for him because some didn't take the bait. I think just like giving him the benefit of the doubt the same should be extended to those who saw through the bullshit. They probably aren't cruel and would never walk up to a stranger and offer a negative comment like.. .Hey, you're ugly. BUT.. when they smell shit they will tell ya. Some just refused to play the game with him.

The best comment had to be the douche comment. I definitely think this whole attempt by the OP was douche worthy LOL. Just my personal opinion. I'm not a cruel person by nature and I believe those that didn't quite fall for all of his comments aren't cruel either.
innerathlete Posts: 487
May 17, 2008 4:38 PM GMT
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jst, I don't think many here would disagree with your analysis of the OP's intentions - but a bigger question is why his obvious insecurity and need for validation draws such a violent reaction from so many people? The original post was definitely eye-roll worthy, and I'm not going to get on a soap box to lecture about compassion because that's equally annoying, but there's a difference between forcing yourself to have compassion for a conflicted guy and taking obvious enjoyment/pleasure out of beating him down.

In other words: yeah, the OP was in some ways begging for a smack-down; but that doesn't mean people have to go out of their way to give him one. And it certainly doesn't mean that people have to take such obvious pleasure in beating him down.

This thread is like watching a reality show.
jsttennis77 Posts: 736
May 17, 2008 4:41 PM GMT
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Sean_85 said[quote][cite]Soufian said[/cite]
Is this REAL JOCK or is this Pussyville.


The better question to answer this pussyville question would be... Would you say that to his face or is it easy to be a bitch because you have a computer screen and god knows how many miles between the both of you?

Because a Real Jock would say that to his face... so ya. :S

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I can't answer directly for the person you were directing your question towards but in general if the OP presented all of this the same way to a bunch of strangers face to face you can bet there would be some who would respond the way the pussyville person responded.

You have to admit, some of the things the OP said were nonsense and a complete stranger is going to roll their eyes over some of that stuff wondering what the guy is really attempting to say. Think about it. A stranger walks up to you and says.. Why do some people think I'm beautiful? I'm so confused. This certain type of guy is always cruising me. Always checking me out. Why oh why am I experiencing such a thing? Pay no attention to the fact that I'm a grown adult man in my 50's and that by now I'm old enough to understand attraction in general. Just tell me why oh why is this happening? It sounds so fucking stupid it's laughable LOL

He definitely would get a lot of negative comments to his face with many saying he's full of shit. Some will walk away while others will obviously try and burst his bubble. They may just have a low level of bullshit tolerance.
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May 17, 2008 4:46 PM GMT
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Didn't realize this place held Keyboard Princess Warrior tryouts.

ActiveAndFit said Also there are some young guys that just like older guys for what ever reason like a fetish.

Quote: Sort out father issues by banging daddy. Unquote.


Tune in next week for 'Why Fags PMS'. An in-depth look at why fags label themselves 'bitches', and uncovering clues to the origin of the petty, superficial and incendiary nature of the gay community.

You guys have been really fucking lame. Like a bunch of pissed off housewives ripping at the neighbors. I thought that job was for the bitter, used up women who hate themselves? Good job spewing bile and contempt.

Repulsive.
zdrew Posts: 1845
May 17, 2008 4:47 PM GMT
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You know, I feel really sorry for the original poster. He seems to be under the impression that RealJock is a place he can get honest, maybe non-judgmental answers.

Instead, he found a ton of fuckwads. Yeah, there are a few honest attempts at a decent answer here, but by and large, you guys are showing a whole lot of ugly.

What's sad is that some of you know better. Even if he's off his rocker and the post is a ridiculous cry for attention (I'm actually gonna refrain from trying to insert motives in another poster's mouth), does everyone have to play at that level?

Sundown - I'm afraid I don't have a good answer. Presence isn't conveyed by a few little pictures online, so I can't say if there's something magnetic about you. Visually, you're not my type, but that's not saying anything...as a few intelligent people said here, different strokes.

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May 17, 2008 4:47 PM GMT
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Anyone care for a chocolate mint chip ice cream?

I'll buy.
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May 17, 2008 4:49 PM GMT
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And just to throw away some minutes into the "black hole" that this thread is (the spacial phenomenon, guys), I want to add to what jsttennis77 wrote above -- even though THAT was long enough -- sundown has a BF! What is he doing checking out guys looking at him! If you're noticing people "really" cruising you, is because you're cruising them yourself. If you want a better understanding of anything, try a better understanding of why you're doing that and not focusing on your relationship. You can break-up with your BF and see what all that cruising is all about. Most probably you will discover that it really was nothing and the only thing you were missing was your BF standing next to you wondering why the hell you keep looking at everyone and not paying attention to what he's saying.
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May 17, 2008 4:49 PM GMT
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innerathlete saidjst, I don't think many here would disagree with your analysis of the OP's intentions - but a bigger question is why his obvious insecurity and need for validation draws such a violent reaction from so many people? The original post was definitely eye-roll worthy, and I'm not going to get on a soap box to lecture about compassion because that's equally annoying, but there's a difference between forcing yourself to have compassion for a conflicted guy and taking obvious enjoyment/pleasure out of beating him down.

In other words: yeah, the OP was in some ways begging for a smack-down; but that doesn't mean people have to go out of their way to give him one.


I actually thought most were pretty tolerant of his game. It could have been much crueler. It's a challenge for some to pull back and say nothing even though they want to real bad. It's like I said, I believe that many who might have said harsher things are by nature not cruel people but this just really struck a nerve with them so they typed and sent their comments on their way before they had a chance to pull back or even edit. There's no way to condone being blatantly cruel but in this case It's a knee jerk reaction when you read the original stuff and see through it.
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May 17, 2008 4:53 PM GMT
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Buckwheet do you know any books that do explain that? Because i've been dying to know.
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May 17, 2008 4:55 PM GMT
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I said I'll buy, bitchez!
Sean_85 Posts: 708
May 17, 2008 5:03 PM GMT
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Well I don't like Choco mint so make mine a Tiger Tale thank you very much
jsttennis77 Posts: 736
May 17, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
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[quote][cite]kerkyon said[/cite]And just to throw away some minutes into the "black hole" that this thread is (the spacial phenomenon, guys), I want to add to what jsttennis77 wrote above -- even though [i]THAT was long enough[/i]

LOL I apologize for all that wind. I tried my hardest to edit that down but at a certain point I gave up and figured... To hell with it! The whole thread has taken on a dark side so might as well just say what I want to say :-)

I'm with the court jester on this one. It's best to have some ice cream and just let this one fall in the archives. Lesson learned for all.
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May 17, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
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jsttennis77 saidThere's no way to condone being blatantly cruel but in this case It's a knee jerk reaction when you read the original stuff and see through it.


It's still a choice. To me, this just smacks of denying accountability: "I couldn't help but push the loser around at recess, he was just such a big loser that I reacted before I could think twice about it!"

kerkyon said sundown has a BF! What is he doing checking out guys looking at him! If you're noticing people "really" cruising you, is because you're cruising them yourself.


I can't even begin to count the number of ways this is untrue. You can spot people cruising you simply because you have two eyes and possess the remotest powers of perception.
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May 17, 2008 5:09 PM GMT
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innerathlete said[quote][cite]jsttennis77 said[/cite]There's no way to condone being blatantly cruel but in this case It's a knee jerk reaction when you read the original stuff and see through it.


It's still a choice. To me, this just smacks of denying accountability: "I couldn't help but push the loser around at recess, he was just such a big loser that I reacted before I could think twice about it!" [/quote]

You're right but what can ya do at this point? Spank them? Have them all stand up and beg forgiveness? Attack them all and call them fuckwads and assholes to balance it all out? Same mentality but masked with being a savior for someone who probably doesn't deserve to be saved in this case with the odd presentation. The original poster has the best seat in the house over all this. He gets to sit back and laugh at how the ride got real bumpy and not once did he step in to clarify any of his comments. It all just ended in a mess either way. Lessons are learned.
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In in my my very very humble humble opi-opinion... I think the Most Deserving Bitchslap Award should still go to "All the guys in LA are UGLY" nominee.
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May 17, 2008 5:16 PM GMT
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zimatar saidIn in my my very very humble humble opi-opinion... I think the Most Deserving Bitchslap Award should still go to "All the guys in LA are UGLY" nominee.


DAMN IT! You missed that! It was supposedly all the men in my neighborhood ( San Fran ) that are ugly. :-) But I'll definitely vote for that one.
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May 17, 2008 5:17 PM GMT
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I'll have a double scoop Zim since you are buying! I didnt know all of us socal men were ugly! Geez! Add some chocolate sauce to that please.
Ducky44 Posts: 630
May 17, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
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OMG!
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May 17, 2008 5:24 PM GMT
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Sundown should be barred from posting until he responds to his own thread
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May 17, 2008 5:25 PM GMT
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Maybe he has a huge bulge.
I , for one, have been guilty of staring at an obscenely large bulge in some ones pants, regardless if I find them attractive. I know I shouldn't stare, but I have to try to figure it out.... more curious than turned on... and if you busted me, I might smile out of nervousness.

(Actually, when I think about it, most large bulges belong to men I am not really attracted to. I am usually at the EAGLE or something like that.)
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May 17, 2008 5:55 PM GMT
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Can you read the posts without logging on? If so, maybe he is reading and does not want to respond now fearing more comments will be made. Or maybe he is reading all the replies and laughing. Who knows...
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May 17, 2008 6:02 PM GMT
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hunter9and even if i "stop being attractive (from my *misogyny*)" all I have to do is not open my mouth, whereas Sundown is shit outta luck no matter which way he spins it.



HAHAHAHAHAHHA, shit!


For the record, i love men of all ages .. like curiousjockAZ .. the man is smoking hot. So don't come with the 'we're old thus we're ugly, you will all see one day!'-rant, because that couldn't be any further from the truth in my case!


sean_85The better question to answer this pussyville question would be... Would you say that to his face or is it easy to be a bitch because you have a computer screen and god knows how many miles between the both of you?

Because a Real Jock would say that to his face... so ya. :S


Oh, trust me ... i am exactly like this in real life. But not only negatively. I adress good things way more often than i do negative things. It works both ways. This is slightly a different case but if i am studying for my final exams and a post like this comes along ... BABY I WILL NOT LET THIS PIECE OF ENTERTAINMENT SLIP!

It's like someone else said, people are probably not this cruel of nature but it is so seductive to just let it go and say what you think.

And to you people bitching about how people are 'fuckwads', try the OP himself? Because like JST stated, this guy is most defenitly a troll. He even looks like a computer nerd and do you think this is his first day on the internet ? Stop being so freaking naive. This is how they roll:

1. make a post that pushes people's buttons
2. wait and read the comments people make and laugh
3. don't post in the thread to allow them to go off against each other.
4. Victory.

I'm not listing everything that makes this dude an obvious troll because jst summed it up pretty well.

And ppppplease the guys that are like 'ohmygod you guys are too cruel you disgust me, you're repulsive gross!' ... hahah i'm laughing as i'm typing this, would you step off your high horses? As if you are the shining example of mother theresa 100% of the time.

And jst, hunter9, wanna sign up for the real world?


Lock and load bitches.
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May 17, 2008 6:31 PM GMT
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HndsmKansan saidWell let me start off by saying I am going to try to do what I do on many threads and that is to be helpful to the original poster and give some food for thought at the same time.

I think some of the input here is a bit unfortunate (meaning some of the disparaging commentary), but Sundown, your original question lends itself to some
discussion such as this.


First off he asked for peoples advice and then others like yourself HndsKansan reading it get mad. He did ask for our input. If you don't like what others write then be glad it wasn't about you and go along with your life. We all are entitled to write what we think if it's the truth. Most can't handle the truth. I don't find him in any way, shape, or form Hot nor attractive.
And what does this have to do with humility mcwclewis? When someone wants a stroke to their ego do you give it regardless? I highly doubt it, bud. We should all be adults thus we should all be able to take critizism when it comes our way regardless if it's alittle harsh. Life isn't a walk in the park, we live and learn.
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May 17, 2008 6:34 PM GMT
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Ducky44 saidOMG!

DUCKY44 HOW ARE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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May 17, 2008 6:43 PM GMT
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Paradigm said[quote][cite]

First off he asked for peoples advice and then others like yourself HndsKansan reading it get mad. He did ask for our input. If you don't like what others write then be glad it wasn't about you and go along with your life. .




Um, to begin with I was hardly mad... I was expressing my opinion as you were. I was making an observation only. I think with a reread of the thread any person here would say I was probably the least emotional or opinionated on this matter.
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May 17, 2008 6:48 PM GMT
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May 17, 2008 6:49 PM GMT
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caslon saidIf you can't take the answers, dont ask the question.

IF THIS THREAD IS SERIOUS:

I am totally baffled what answer is expected, when we are told the pic isn't a true representation of him.

If the pic doesnt convey his true appearance, what can we say? If we go by the pic, they aren't cruising him for his classic good looks.

I am going to go with the camera doesn't lie THAT much.

You asked for help. Here is mine. Personally, I don't think anybody is cruising you. I think you have some serious personal esteem issues that are bordering on delusional. I suggest getting professional counselling. Seriously.



hey, caslon, you speak the truth good sir!



& LOL moudi
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May 17, 2008 7:23 PM GMT
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HndsmKansan said I think with a reread of the thread any person here would say I was probably the least emotional or opinionated on this matter.


Unfortunately, being the least offensive can also be the least helpful.

I have never believed for a second that he is being cruised as he describes. I now have serious doubts that he even has a bf. I notice that he is in an open relationship. After reading his original posting and his profile, I now doubt the existence of this relationship outside of his own head.

And altho it may seem harsh, I think it is better to bitch slap somebody back to reality than to coddle him in his delusional cocoon.

A friend is sombody who will help you move; a real friend is somebody who will tell you the whole stinking truth.
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May 17, 2008 7:38 PM GMT
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caslon said[quote][cite]HndsmKansan said[/cite] I think with a reread of the thread any person here would say I was probably the least emotional or opinionated on this matter.


Unfortunately, being the least offensive can also be the least helpful.

I have never believed for a second that he is being cruised as he describes. I now have serious doubts that he even has a bf. I notice that he is in an open relationship. After reading his original posting and his profile, I now doubt the existence of this relationship outside of his own head.

And altho it may seem harsh, I think it is better to bitch slap somebody back to reality than to cuddle him in his delusional cocoon.

A friend is sombody who will help you move; a real friend is somebody who will tell you the whole stinking truth.[/quote]

You couldn't have said what i was thinking any better than this Caslon
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May 17, 2008 7:42 PM GMT
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Hey, anyone up for a pint?

Moudi's paying.
obscenewish Posts: 3261
May 17, 2008 7:56 PM GMT
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Jesus God, leave Brittney alone.
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May 17, 2008 7:58 PM GMT
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obscenewish saidJesus God, leave Brittney alone.

YAH SEE, DAZ W00T AM TAWKIN AB00T!!!
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May 17, 2008 8:11 PM GMT
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oh no, we would be doing the wrong thing leaving him alone... it is our job as "friends" to tell him how pitiful and heinous his existence is. Tough love will fix this right up...
genius.

this reminds me of when Pattison joined us. good times.
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May 17, 2008 8:13 PM GMT
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mnjock2003 saidoh no, we would be doing the wrong thing leaving him alone... it is our job as "friends" to tell him how pitiful and heinous his existence is. Tough love will fix this right up...
genius.

this reminds me of when Pattison joined us. good times.


I thought you had left.
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May 17, 2008 8:14 PM GMT
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I missed your lolcatz so I had to come back.
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May 17, 2008 8:16 PM GMT
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He's right though cas, i still just did it cus that's what my thoughts were when i read his post.

btw

jstSo all the youngsters in your area "cruise" you? Are you sure they aren't just starring at you wondering who that ol pervert is starring back at them? LMAO


still wins
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May 17, 2008 8:18 PM GMT
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obscenewish saidJesus God, leave Brittney alone.


LOL....OMG! LOLcats is off line ... ... while they expand and get bigger and better ...
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May 17, 2008 8:22 PM GMT
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caslon saidUnfortunately, being the least offensive can also be the least helpful.

I have never believed for a second that he is being cruised as he describes. I now have serious doubts that he even has a bf. I notice that he is in an open relationship. After reading his original posting and his profile, I now doubt the existence of this relationship outside of his own head.

And altho it may seem harsh, I think it is better to bitch slap somebody back to reality than to coddle him in his delusional cocoon.

A friend is sombody who will help you move; a rea