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Now .. let's exercise our gaydars , all you need is, practice and practice, and experience .

Here is some information I collected from some experienced gay guy .. and um.. myself.


1) start from the first sight :

Eyes - the best way for sending instant messages , one look may say a lot just don't be afraid to look in the eyes and see how does he react.

Lips - most gay guys have a special lips shape , smile , sometimes you need to go deeper: look at the teeth .

Hands - Crossed hands , one finger on lips/chin , the way he holds stuff or uses his hands .. all can say something about him .

Legs - the way he walks : feets are more close to eachother . the way he sits : guys who sit crossleged may be gay..

Look - hair , clothes , shoes ... but we are looking for the gays who are not easy to find .. the good ones usually .


2) The first talk :

Voice tone - usually gay guys talk in a high tone ... listen carefully to the "HI!" . .. most of them, not all .

Is he a bit shy ? - ...

Sexual tension - do you feel something in the air ? no matter how laidback the guy is , you'll probably notice some anxiety in his talk.

Signals - be laidback and talk about anything .. listen to his talks and look bitween the lines , he's trying to send some signals .. (compliments, mentioning relationships or sex , friends , nightlife ... , and when he asks about your age .. ? )


3) observation :

give the suspected guy a number -accordinng to the information above, for example : I think there is a chance of 70% that he's gay .. or maybe 20% ?

Watching - watch the guy talking to his friends , acting with male friends , walking , talking on phone , eating something .... it can help you give a better percentage .. or find out if you are right about it ..

Gay friends - share it with your gay friends , you can help each other with finding out .. or just compete with your gaydars .


4) don't give up !

This guy may look straight , he may also mention girls , act straight and trying to look laidback - Is there someone with him ? there is a chance that he won't be able to send signals when there are people around (homophobic friends or family members .. )

Start a conversation ....ask him out for a cup of coffe, why not? if he's gay then you won ! .. if he's not then you gained a new friend .. as simple as it is!


Now I hope this helps , and good luck for all of you, and remember to keep practicing !

i think you just outed clark kent and 98% of the men in europe. did you mean to do that?

Umm...ok...

there needs to be a font that is sarcasm specific.

Wow that is pretty good, My roommate is 100% gay on gaydar, yet still denies being gay and insists upon sleeping with women!

I have told him repeatedly that he needs to act straighter, (is that a word?)but he refuses and still has heterosexual relationships, loves shopping, loves womens shoes (buying them not wearing them for his GF's or female friends) has abs at 37, and dresses better then I do!

How can I convince him that he is supposed to like men, or to butch it up a bit? All of our friends think he is the gay guy and I am confused. My hookup...er friend...had a huge conversation with him about little dogs, while I was standing there thinking, are they gonna go off and walk their dogs together? He almost stole my trick!

Guys like this throw off our gaydar!

Except for the anxiety while talking to a handsome fellow, none of that applies to me.

Well, I cross my legs when sitting but only if I can get a good slouch going.

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE...IM SURE THE NEWBIES AND THOSE WHO HAVENT TUNED IN TO THEIR GAYDARS FOR AWHILE WILL USE IT...BUT IM SO TIRED TRYNG TO FIGURE OUT IF SOMEBODY'S ONE OF US! IN A PERFECT WORLD,EVERYONE WILL BE OPEN ABOUT THEMSELVES AND WE WONT HAVE TO PLAY THIS GAME,BUT UNTIL THEN...

I pegged one at Walmart. Something about how he carried himself, sorta bouncy, or floppy... guess you could say it was a delicate swagger. He was wearing grey shorts, sneakers, had a crew cut, salt & pepper stubble, nice build. Pretty good looking guy all around, and on the masculine side. Was walking by him some time afterwards and he walked up behind a lady(stretching that term)that worked there and said 'Hay girlfriend!'.

In all of the categories there I said "may" or "almost".. cuz you can never be 100% sure about someone only from using the gaydar ..
and for the people who always ask us in the forums "how I know he's gay??" I hope this will help them .. cuz nobody can know unless he's there with the person to receive the signals ..

And Dancerjack, if you look at how many gay guy are walking around you in the street you'll think that they are 40% of the guys ...

Uh, stereotype much?

not all those rules apply. i've found out that i should just trust my initial instincts. when i've second doubted myself i find out later that my initial thoughts were right.

initial instincts , they start form here .. there are some people who don't know even the basic rules ..

Timberoo said

Sometimes i wonder if you work for youtube, hired to promote it.

I agree that the gaydar hints seem a little stereotyped.

Also, I just want to say that the "acting" in straight-acting does not have to be defined as "performing." It can also be defined as "behaving." In other words, a straight-acting guy is one who naturally exhibits fewer of the characteristics list in the original post (and there are a lot of gay guys out there who are like that).

Charlie

Hm for real guys, i'm fairly positive he's just joking.

GHoSTa saidmost gay guys have a special lips shape

...guys who sit crossleged may be gay

...usually gay guys talk in a high tone

This is one of my favorite RJ posts ever.

Do you think it would be possible to include a hi-res illustration of the "special lips shape?" Don't leave us hanging here Ghostie.

iguanaSF saidDo you think it would be possible to include a hi-res illustration of the "special lips shape?" Don't leave us hanging here Ghostie.

Think of the opening credits of The Rocky Horror Picture Show.

You know... I think that my neighbor may be gay. The other day after he was done giving me a blow job, he tried to kiss me. What a fag!

CarlosGringo saidI agree that the gaydar hints seem a little stereotyped.

Also, I just want to say that the "acting" in straight-acting does not have to be defined as "performing." It can also be defined as "behaving." In other words, a straight-acting guy is one who naturally exhibits fewer of the characteristics list in the original post (and there are a lot of gay guys out there who are like that).

Charlie

This gaydar exercise is relevant to most of the gay guys .. but even the hard ones "str8 acting" can be cought by this gaydar system .. cuz it's not about look and acting it's also about training yourself how to recognise gay guys by a conversation - starting from the 1st level which is with the easiest guys to recognise..

::blinks::

Who knew I was straight?

Stereotypes:

Getting gay men laid since they befriended Dorothy.

Hand position, over all appearance and voice inflection mean zip in my book. In fact, that almost sounds like stereo typing.

I honestly think to tap into true "gaydar" if thats what you want to call it, you have to be a very quick observer between the eyes and the response in body language another guy is sending after that fast eye contact. It happens real fast.

Sudden eye contact ( not gawking) that hits the soul. They tend to turn their head down or away quickly after that quick searching glance. Almost ducking for cover because they know you know. They look back again quickly and away quickly. Almost like you've caught them and their body doesn't know what to do with it. Their body reaction is almost nervous but controlled.

It had nothing to do with their voice, the way they dressed, walked or any of that. For one second you saw behind the facade and they sense it and their body reacts to it. They could be standing their with a girlfriend or wife and nothing kept them hidden from you.

jsttennis77 said you have to be a very quick observer between the eyes and the response in body language another guy is sending after that fast eye contact. It happens real fast.

Sudden eye contact ( not gawking) that hits the soul. They tend to turn their head down or away quickly after that quick searching glance. Almost ducking for cover because they know you know. They look back again quickly and away quickly. Almost like you've caught them and their body doesn't know what to do with it. Their body reaction is almost nervous but controlled.

Exactly , that's right .. but not all of the newbies can use this way ..
and the gaydar excersice is just a practice until you develope a good gaydar .. and stereotypical gay guys stick out more than the others , no one like this but it's a fact..

jsttennis77 saidthat almost sounds like stereo typing.

Almost?

LOL. I love this thread.

But seriously folks, I agree with tennis' observations. As been said before in many many threads and confirmed by most RJers, it's all about the eye contact.

OK, I have to go almost do some work, then later almost go to the gym.

K

Exactly , that's right .. but not all of the newbies can use this way ..
and the gaydar excersice is just a practice until you develope a good gaydar .. and stereotypical gay guys stick out more than the others , no one like this but it's a fact..[/quote]

Well with those that might fall under stereo typical usually gaydar isn't needed. I can go into a public setting and my so called gaydar doesn't even acknowledge the obvious. It's like doing geometry. In a proof you have the given already. Now you need to fill in the not so obvious. Thats how my gaydar seems to work. It seems to have it's own tracking device built in and focuses on the non stereo typical. That sudden behind the eyes dead on contact. It happens so fast. The body language where they pull their head down or to the side clearly saying.. THEY KNOW!

This seems to be dead on correct. I do exactly what you wrote when a guy looks into my eyes. I also notice with other guys. When thing I'm not sure of is what if someone if stairing at you consistantly then when you glance over they slowly just look away. Is this like a I'll fuck you up type stare or I'm gay but confident enough to keep looking stare. I ask because theres this really hot dude at the gym that consistantly does it. Almost every single time I'm doing a different work out I notice him looking over or we meet each others eyes often. However one of my straight friends did this similar thing to me before I was friends with him, I never asked him about it. Maybe its kind of like a domination thing?

jsttennis77 saidHand position, over all appearance and voice inflection mean zip in my book. In fact, that almost sounds like stereo typing.

I honestly think to tap into true "gaydar" if thats what you want to call it, you have to be a very quick observer between the eyes and the response in body language another guy is sending after that fast eye contact. It happens real fast.

Sudden eye contact ( not gawking) that hits the soul. They tend to turn their head down or away quickly after that quick searching glance. Almost ducking for cover because they know you know. They look back again quickly and away quickly. Almost like you've caught them and their body doesn't know what to do with it. Their body reaction is almost nervous but controlled.

It had nothing to do with their voice, the way they dressed, walked or any of that. For one second you saw behind the facade and they sense it and their body reacts to it. They could be standing their with a girlfriend or wife and nothing kept them hidden from you.

once...

there was this guy...

and he liked spaghetti...

Repeated stares are always an after thought for me. This whole gaydar concept for me works on first glance. There is just something about that quick look and sudden head down or to the side like someone is caught. Then one fast look again and pull down again. Thats when that inner ping says... beep beep beep there's one right over there and he knows that I know.

After that all other looks fall into continued searching. Sometimes it can become annoying because you are forced to over analyze. There is that look that says... Hey do I know him? or ... Why the hell are they looking at me? You'd have to go back to the very first time you looked at that guy in the gym who is still looking. What happened the first time your eyes hit for one brief second? Thats just my measure on it.

I am guildy of hands, legs and the shyness. I never talk about girls and as soon as we get into girls, I always change the subject ... but my friends don't get it haha.

Guess when I have a guy over in my dorm room some night they might get it.

The funny thing is, most gay guys I have talked with in person were able to pick me out right away, but straight guys don't pick up on it (to my knowledge, they might know and just aren't telling me)

When i sleep with a guy he rarely speaks, NEVER crosses his legs, and is hardley ever dressed! OMG!!! Have i been sleeping with straight men all this time?!?!

http://www.blairmag.com/blair3/gaydar/euro.html

Gay or Eurotrash - no offense to my euro guys - I think you are hotties!

I saw a guy today .. really masculine and doesn't look gay at all (he does sit crosslegged and he's a bit shy too... never mind ) ... just one eye contact made me so sure that there is a chance of 80% he's gay ..
.. it's mostly in the eyes but you must know the other small tiny details , they can help you to be a 2-3 <<< % more sure about him ..