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I met up with some guy now and we've hooked up about 4 times. I'm 22 he's 26, both good looking and we definately clicked. But i asked him if he wanted to be exclusive with me and he said he's not ready to commit to a relationship cause he has school, work and travels alot and feels that it's not fair to me, even though i said I'm fine with it.

I really like him and he likes me and said I am a great guy, but I want him to commit to me. He said he still and will meet other guys. And he doesnt think I'm ready for a relationship either.

What can I do to make him like me more and wanna be with me?? like play hard to get or something, cause I'm always calling him and texting him and I'm sure he's annoyed of it but I like him alot. any tips would be a big help since I'm still new to this.

Thnx guys!!!

Don't make him do anything. Don't over-text him 35 times a day because you're right, he IS annoyed! And dont play hard to get either. Just be yourself-tell him how you really feel and take it from there. Good luck!

You can't make other people want you. The more you try, the more you will push them away. You're only 22, you have plenty of time to meet people and find someone compatible who likes you back the same way. Try to work on your own goals, and you will attract guys without coming off desperate. Good luck!

Nagging and Stalking are one of the BIGGEST turn offs. Don't do it.

It's called ...

DON'T HOOK UP WITH HIM whenever he wants

if you want someone to do something they're unsure of
make'em miss what ever that is, get it?

I agree with GQ. You need to set firm boundaries about sex-- if you want him to commit then lay out the terms otherwise he has no incentive.

But really it's just like TV --you can't make people feel differntly ... without resorting to bizarre and elaborate schemes that always backfire in crazy ways.

I know you probably hate hearing this, but you really cannot do anything to make him want to commit to you. Perhaps you should think about looking for someone who is ready for a relationship and not waste time on a guy who has given you all sorts of clues that he is not that person.

Mmm if you really want to get game from him. Your gonna have to make him jealous.

Taking him out to a club and hangout with him. Then ask him if he finds any guys attractive there.

After he finds one. Go up to the guy and start talking with him. Start laughing and having fun with the guy he likes.

For better details check out the movie "two can play that game"

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No mean messaging me I'm just trying to help the guy out!

You have two choices: accept him as he is. Or not. He's been honest with you about what he wants - and doesn't want. You can only change yourself; you cannot change him or his feelings, no matter how you try to make him jealous or play other games - they won't work.

Sleeping with him is probably making you feel worse because you're not getting what you want from the relationship (and there is nothing wrong with you for wanting more, just as there is nothing wrong with him for not being able to provide it.)

So my advice: move on and find someone who can give you what you want!

Just keep doing what you've been doing and don't push the commitment stuff

If it's meant to be it'll come about eventually. If not at least you do have what you have with him and that's a lot!

Nothing wrong with being "best friends with benefits" for now ;-)

There really isn't much you can do to get someone to like you more. All you can do is be yourself. Overtexting or calling too often may be perceived as needy and overbearing - this can be conceived as too much pressure and he will back off. Fate has a funny way of doing things and, really, if it is meant to be, it will be. Just be yourself and things will definitely work out if it is meant to be. You are still young and you will have many "loves" in your life!

It seems he is putting the writing on the wall already. He isnt ready for a relationship yet. If he gets in one now....he will cheat on you. Make him want you and only you. Show him that his life would be miserable if it didnt have you and only you in it.